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This apparently is a very hot take but

Minors are currently treated as 2nd class citizens

They are refused bodily autonomy and rights under the same excuse of "they're not smart enough" "they don't know what they are doing" "they're biologically not as smart as adults" as women and black people were.

They are refused access to things and are shunned from places and segregated from adults

It gets so bad that even adults who are from different generations are perpetuating the divide between eachother when we're all supposed to be a community

It makes me so upset that even this community often discriminates against minors

I think minors should be able to vote, to be able to make decisions for themselves, to be told what's going on, not just "oh they're not old enough for that"

I AM SERIOUSLY PISSED OFF

Minor should not be a legal class

Black and Latino teenagers being specifically targeted in fear mongering around "juvenile delinquents".

Girls having both their status as kids and as female to justify being treated as property by their fathers and male caregivers, especially when they're also their abusers.

"Protection of children" being used as a rhetorical weapon against queerness.

Trans kids being denied transition because of their age.

Ageism helps fuel so many other forms of prejudice, and vice versa, and there are so many forms of oppression that are specific to minors of color and queer minors.

they probably think like "transage beings will never be real [that age], but they're still [that age] in some sense"

This apparently is a very hot take but

Minors are currently treated as 2nd class citizens

They are refused bodily autonomy and rights under the same excuse of "they're not smart enough" "they don't know what they are doing" "they're biologically not as smart as adults" as women and black people were.

They are refused access to things and are shunned from places and segregated from adults

It gets so bad that even adults who are from different generations are perpetuating the divide between eachother when we're all supposed to be a community

It makes me so upset that even this community often discriminates against minors

I think minors should be able to vote, to be able to make decisions for themselves, to be told what's going on, not just "oh they're not old enough for that"

I AM SERIOUSLY PISSED OFF

Minor should not be a legal class

Black and Latino teenagers being specifically targeted in fear mongering around "juvenile delinquents".

Girls having both their status as kids and as female to justify being treated as property by their fathers and male caregivers, especially when they're also their abusers.

"Protection of children" being used as a rhetorical weapon against queerness.

Trans kids being denied transition because of their age.

Ageism helps fuel so many other forms of prejudice, and vice versa, and there are so many forms of oppression that are specific to minors of color and queer minors.

Btw yesterday we made a banner forrr our dearest obsessed fans who can truly appreciate both of us

I bet no one's gonna use ts cuz nocreature likes this stupid annoying bitch (Vee) but i promised to upload this just for hymn soo enjoy ig<33

''Rightfully harassed someone who harassed you'' If this is like me like I think it is, when did i ever harass you? you started it, you kept reblogging my posts when all I did was reply to a comment of yours and when i moved to dms to not flood my feed you posted those and sent your fans my way, you let someone make racism allegations towards me because i called you an idf solider, not even an israeli because i love the people of israel but i hate the gov, please get out of your head, should I have stop interacting? yes but i am a teenager, you are a grown man (who's by the way committed crimes), you had every chance to walk away yet you didn't, you inherently gave me YOUR FANS a person to harass, you deserve no sympathy, and if you even find this post, shut, the fuck up, you are not innocent you never fuckin will be

You took it upon yourself to initiate direct contact, even provoking me to take your contact either way I wanted by invoking that I leave the community over a doc.

As provided by your lovely screenshots. Which, big thank you. Chief kiss really. :)

Then, escalated the situation when you were basically told to fuck off and kys for deliability reaching out in order to provoke drama.

You also didn't just "move to DMs to not flood your feed"—and again, deliberately reached out directly to my DMs by continuing to beraite somebody for responding to you.

​You initiated the confrontation, got upset at the deliberate actions YOU made, which carry consequences. Then, expected everyone to drop their hats and give you sympathy points for your self-inflicted drama.

Also, I didn't encourage anyone to make allegations about you. Again. You just kind of did shit toward yourself, and used racist slang that pissed off the right people.

Literally proving my point, and don't even know it. How rich. Also, deflecting from accountability and the fact that YOU started all of this, does not change anything.

Of where YES sexuality of all kinds in, yk, sexual manners, are EXTREMELY important to people and spaces like tumblr and pedi are some of the only ones that exist where you can be that much of a freak and it not be the end of the world (because genuinely, a lot of spaces are not catered or even safe for that)

On the other hand, for other radqueers who either aren't *as* sexual or just not in the mood for that or any other which way, it can feel suffocating when the space is FULL of things they either don't care about, personally get squicked out by, or are just generally repulsed by sexual things for whatever reason

Now the truth is, both people who post a lot of sexual things need to tag their things more, you folks have a HORRIBLE time remembering that your personal blog tags that tell your fans and so on, what kinda wacky stuff you'll post this time are *not* the same tags that let everyone else know. The general community should not have block your specific tags when it's something as easy as a cw or tw tag, it would be good even for your simps when you bring up topics that trigger them, yes, even more than you intend to.

And on the other side, a LOT of you need to deconstruct your sex negativity AND anti-kink and paramisic bullshit you guys keep doing, both sides have managed to make ALL sides of the Aspectrum feel uncomfortable. I say that FIRMLY as an aromantic person where it keeps feeling like those who dislike the sexual nature of others (and even some of the horny blogs) forget that aromantic people exist, or the fact that paras ARE in fact sexual in nature for many people!

Asexual people? Feel uncomfortable, aromantic people? Completely ignored. God FORBID aplatonic or afamilial

Anyways, this IS a case where you have to hold hands and figure your shit out. We can frolic and so on, but only when you all can figure out how to respect each other at the bare minimum, and unpack yourself

we NEED to make it so they cannot find traction or clout in this community puppet is sick and tired of seeing bigots successfully mulling around at the edges without getting figuratively chased away with a blunt object.

1. We introduced the term “endogenic” into the community August 2014, along with some other terms! It was in response to exclusionists (wrongly) complaining about “systems without DID” using “their words”. It was an attempt at creating nonmedicalized terms that any plural system could use. 

2. It was also a way to do away with terms that had fallen into disfavor— specifically “natural systems”, a term that had been in use possibly as early as 1994. It was disliked because people felt it implied that trauma-caused systems were unnatural. “Endogenic” fixed that. 

3. The word “endogenic” was lovingly created to help systems put their experience into words. All it means is “a system not formed by trauma”; it doesn’t imply any other cause, set of beliefs, or experiences. It doesn’t imply the system is nondisordered or doesn’t have trauma. It doesn’t mean any other system’s origins in trauma or dx status is “invalid” or whatever.

4. Though the terms were eventually posted to tumblr, the idea didn’t start there. Tumblr was created in 2007; the concept of systems not caused by trauma has, again, been online since the 90s. Nor was the term created by singlets! We’re a trauma-caused system with DID. 

5. “Endogenic” wasn’t created as an insult or to exclude anyone. We have loved ones who are endogenic. Many of the terms in use now were created by endogenics. They have helped preserve plural history, and defended the community. They are good people, and real systems. The hate they get is completely senseless.

Thanks for coming to our talk. Please stop insulting endogenic systems, and educate yourselves instead, thanks. (Unless it’s just pure malice at this point in which case, fuck off I guess.)

Anti-radqueers whose entire accounts revolve around us, thrive on the attention we are giving them, if you block them, they can't see your content, they can't interact with you, and they no longer have the reaction they're looking for

People like Scott, I-reblog-retards, Radtards, the new one Radnormal, and countless other accounts don't keep doing this, aside from the fact that they genuinely dislike us, want to spread misinformation, and all that, but because people keep feeding them attention. And even worse some of you all are actively reinforcing EVERY negative belief they already have about this community. They want reactions, they want screenshots, they want people screaming and crying threats and downright horrible shit in their inboxes. They want examples they can point at and use as proof that we're ALLL horrible people. And some of you just hand that shit to them on a GOLDEN fucking platter

When you're sending threats, acting deranged, harassing people, or telling someone they deserve horrible things, you're NOT helping anyone or anything, you're reinforcing every negative belief they already have about us. What do you expect them to think when you're literally acting like the kind of person they already believe you are?

What do you genuinely think will happen when you’re threatening anti’s, sending them rape threats, sending death threats, trying to dox them, spreading ILLEGAL IMAGES OF THEM. You can't seriously expect someone to go from "I hate radqueers" to "Wow, I was completely wrong!" because you threatened them or told them they deserved abuse. Be so fucking for real?! All you've done is make yourself and the community look like FUCKING IDIOTS while giving them another reason on how yes we do all act like this. Congratulations, also you DON'T tell someone that, fuck you if you have

If someone hates us, they hate us. You can correct misinformation. You can explain that radqueers do not support rape, abuse, or whatever other bullshit people accuse us of. But if they refuse to listen, block them and move on. Stop engaging. They are not owed your attention, and you are not required to fight every anti account that shows up. You're not going to force people to like us by harassing them, okay?

I mostly make flags and occasionally talk to people, yet almost every day I see another pointless conflict because someone got upset that a known anti account reblogged their post and said something stupid.. Like okay..??? So block them if they make you upset.. SCOTT HAS BEEN HERE FOR A WHILE, YOU’VE HAD TIME..

Look you're allowed to be annoyed. You're allowed to be angry. Nobody likes being mocked, talked down to, or criticized

But most of the time, they just reblog your post and say something stupid to get your reaction, or put out their opinion to which it’s okay if someone has a different opinion.

If someone is genuinely harassing you, making alt accounts to contact you, stalking you, or repeatedly targeting you, that's a serious issue and different. But if someone reblogs a PUBLIC POST they saw on their dashboard and says something rude, the easiest and most effective response is usually to BLOCK THEM.

This post probably won't change anything. It's long no one likes reading but holy shit, stop fighting these people every chance you get.

Like I see people asking "Why do antis hate us?"

Maybe because some of you keep giving them more and more examples and reasons to. Maybe because some of you keep sending threats to them. Maybe because some of you are showing up in their DMs and ask boxes acting completely unhinged. If you send rape threats, death threats, or threats in general, you are no better than antis, you are not morally superior for identifying in a certain way, you are not doing ANYTHING. You're just showing everyone that you're immature and incapable of controlling yourself. Sit the fuck down

A lot of people in this community seriously have a big problem with self control and sensitivity issues. Yes, you're allowed to be upset. I get upset too, I’m sensitive, immature, and hold grudges as well. I've been called all kinds of shit for being a radqueer and a paraphile. But being angry is not an excuse for being a completely deranged person and acting in those kinds of ways.. Like that doesn't remove the accountability and responsibility you have for your action, think about how you look, how the community looks, how your actions WILL affect people. No one deserves the shit you guys are doing and saying to anti’s, and look I’m not saying what anti’s are doing is anything better than you guys, but can you not see how you are acting just like them??

Dehumanizing, threatening, doxxing, spreading.. Everything anti’s have done to us as well yes, but like… it doesn't make it right? I'm not saying antis are innocent or that their behavior is any better, but can you seriously not see how some of you are acting? If your response to criticism is threats, harassment, doxxing, or spreading illegal content, then you're proving their point for them.

At that point, you're hurting this community far more than any anti would be able to. Do whatever you want. I'm not here to control anybody. In all honesty, none of this affects me that much personally. I can disappear whenever I want and rebuild elsewhere. But this behavior is one of the biggest reasons people don't want to be a part of this community in the first place and derails what could've been newer members, I enjoy being here. I enjoy creating things for you all. But if I'm being honest, one of the main reasons I've ever considered leaving this community has never been antis, but you guys. If your response to being mistreated is to turn around and do the exact same thing they are doing, then you're not solving the problem, you're contributing to it and making it 10x worse.

This community desperately needs more accountability and self-awareness. People need to start thinking about how their actions affect everyone around them instead of acting purely out of anger and then expecting others to defend it.. Also we need to stop defending it just because they are one of us..

Because at the end of the day, every threat you send, every person you harass, and every time you decide to escalate things instead of walk the fuck away, you're making it harder for everyone else, you're damaging the already very looked down upon community

At some point, people need to grow up, control themselves, and accept responsibility for their behavior. If we want people to stop viewing us in the worst possible light, then maybe we should stop giving them reasons to. Is this not clicking?? Or have you guys just fully stopped caring?

“Radqueers are the future” Then act like it, it wont happen if we don't actually work toward that future, a movement doesn't become the future because its members spend their time harassing random 15 yr olds online or picking fights with every anti account they see. None of that helps the community, changes minds, or gets us anywhere. If you genuinely believe in this community and where it could go, then put the energy you use for anti’s into something fucking productive. Make resources. Correct misinformation. Support people yet also GENUINELY hold people accountable. Create things. Have actual conversations. Do literally anything that contributes something positive. You can say it all you want, but a future doesn't just magically happen because you believe it will happen. People have to genuinely work towards that future you have to put effort and time, you don't have to 24/7 but positive contributions is needed