Manipulation

#13 Everyone can be "trained" to do one thing or another. It is known as operant conditioning. It is used to show children what is right or wrong through a reward or a punishment and is an ethical way of manipulation. It is seen in almost all complex animals and is used mostly by parents to their children. This is an example for use to another human of about the same age:

"Hello... Oh... can you give me that bottle over there?" (A bottle at the end of the room) "okay." (Goes and gets it in a grumpy way) "Thank you, how about you choose a good movie to watch this time."

#11 people care about how they are percieved by others. If you want a person to agree to something even if he doesn’t want to, you could say it in a way that others around that person will agree. As people like to fit in, she/he will agree with everyone around them most of the time.

#10a the term "superiors" is given to a group of people that are higher in rank or status than yourself. A boss for example is a basic idea of a superior. The goal for manipulating superiors could either be making them choose or do something, or it could be to get to a higher rank yourself. The best way to manipulate superiors is not to do it directly. This is also part of the "48 Laws Of Power" The following is a list of ways to do so:

Make them feel superior: people with power love it when others feel their power. By making them feel superior, whether be carying out everything they say or simply telling them occasionally how (fill in the blank) they look in that (clothing). (Remember, everything depends on their personality and what position they are in as well as what time you are telling that to them in) "Law #1 never outshine the master"

Never show your motives: you have to show them that your intension behind any act yoi are doing is benefiting the place where you work (or them). This makes them sure they could trust you and make you look better for promotion. "Law #3 conceal your intensions"

Reputation: you have to have a reputation. Make it a good one though. If you work for a sales manager, make a reputation of your ability to persuade people. Never let anyone make the smallest crack in your reputation or everything you have done will fade. "Law #5 so much depends on reputation- gaurd it with your life"

To master not being found out and that is one of the most important parts of manipulation we need to know how people find out you are manipulating them and work from there.

Bullying: you can easily manipulate a person by telling them something with an aggressive face to make them feel they have to. This is an easy way and works but is also easy to be found out as you are doing it voluntarily. The best way to avoid it, is to look hesitant to asking which makes that person have a higher chance of agreeing. This means you both manipulated them and made them less likely to find out.

The manipulator's zone: this is a little bit more subtle and is hard to find in the short-term, but is important to know. It is basically having yourself always choosing the place which always gives you the experience, knowledge and therefore control over the other person. A good way to avoid being caught is giving the occasional yes. Make it into 80-90% where you want to go. If you don't, the person might say no and if you force it will get even worse. Once you give an occasional yes, they will be one; happier with the behavior and two; will always have an instinct to ask you first, therefore, more control

Guilt: as i have discussed before, guilt as bad when used too much making the person less likely to agreeing and therefore more stubborn and harder to manipulate.

Proving love: this one is classic and you probably ran into it once or twice. It is to tell someone, "if you love me, ..." or some variation of that. To avoid being found out, i suggest simply doing it once absolutely necessary. It works like magic, but the manipulated person gains resistance to it.

Emotional blackmail: this manipulation tactic is for cold manipulators and is threatening to kill oneself or dome variation of it to make the other person afraid of going away. This makes an emotional trauma inwhich they get you away from them forcefully. To avoid being detected look as serious and as afraid as possible as you say it and say it when it matters. Most importantly, do it when the other person cares for you more than or equal to himself/herself.

Playing the victim: this is easier done by females as it is socially known and globally stereotypical (no offense). It is showing that you are the victim no matter what happened. It is easy and has a small probability of being found out in the short-term. One way not to be found easily is to accept appologizes quickly (only when playing the victim, if you accept apologizing quickly all the time, you will be manipulated).

Gaslighting: as famous and dangerous as it sounds, gaslighting is to bend truths, deny saying things, stating you said something you didn't etc. It makes the target rely on you moree than his brain but often fails and you will be left away. A better way to do it is by only using it when the subject is unsure. Once you do it then, he will rely on you for his/her memory more and then you will be handed power.

Neediness: easy to perform and amazing in short-term but best used with a huge time gap between them and once it happens act that way all throughout (dont look sick and then jump like a monkey 3 seconds later).

Overdose of kindness: this occurs as you are "kind" with someone and then use it to make them do something. One way to avoid being caught is to not overdo it. Dont be over-the-top kind and nice or they will be suspicious

Overreaction guilt: this is when you are calm when conflict starts to make the other peraon feel like they are overreacting. An easy way and is best used when them overreacting is amost true, in other words, when the situation needs a small amount less of a reaction. At that point you exagerate calmness and collectiveness.

"Joking": this is when you either make fun of them in public or critsizing them and bruahing it off as a joke. Both serve very little purpose other than amuzement and are generaly useless. If you do want to use it then be careful, do it while looking the way you would in a joke and understand when it is most serious or you will have a bad day.

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#7 Guilt, in your manipulation tool box, guilt will be your screwdriver. It will make people open up and show what is hidden. Guilt makes people feel it is their fault and makes them feel like they are a bad person. After that happens they will feel like they have to say yes (or no depending on what you ask of them).

This could be as small as "It's okay... I am used to be treated like this..." *looking sad and then walking away*.

#5 DITF is similar to FITD except that instead of having the subject agree to a small request then agree to a big request, you request a huge thing that is believable but definitely not agreeable then give them what you really want (the smaller request). They feel obligated to say yes seeing as they will feel worse for saying no to both requests.

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