So long as you're not harming yourself or harming others.
Can I be honest for a second?
I never understood neopronouns.
I never understood why someone would use neopronouns.
I never understood how a simple "he", "she", or even "they" couldn't appeal to a person.
I didn't get why someone would use "ze" or "xe" or even "fae".
I couldn't understand.
But a while ago, I thought to myself.
When I started trying out a different name, I asked my mom what she would say if I wanted to go by a different name.
She told me that she would still love me.
She told me that she was happy with whatever made me happy, on one condition:
"If you're not harming yourself or others, then be who you want to be and live how you want to live."
I thought about that moment.
And I thought back to this one.
I realized that, despite society shunning people for this new type of self identification, it wasn't harming anyone.
People who were using neopronouns weren't harming themselves by using neopronouns, and they weren't harming anyone else by using neopronouns.
Society often uses the argument of "It's too hard to remember all of these new pronouns."
I understand where they're coming from, seeing as I once saw it that way too.
But in that argument, they make a statement, whether they realize it or not.
They tell us that they aren't willing to stop and learn.
They aren't willing to change.
And by not being willing to change, they are harming people.
So the next time you think to yourself, "This is so confusing" or "This is stupid, why would someone use this as a pronoun," think:
"Is it harming someone?"
Often times, the answer is no.
So why fight it when it doesn't harm you?
