.

Before & after I got my diaper soggy! 🩵

By no means am I an expert, but see the below list to help guide your little into littlespace and keep her there as long as her little heart desires. Hopefully you see something new or something you’ve never considered!  Emotional Care! ——————————————————–

- Ask her if she’s being a good girl - Tell her when she’s being good - Remind her how small she is - Call her cute little or pet names - Talk to her in a cute voice that brings a smile to her face - Say encouraging words - Make her blush - Congratulate her on doing something difficult - Always tell her you love her more. Never give in - Ask her a silly question - Playfully and politely tease her - Sit her in your lap - Cuddle her - Cuddle and tickle attacks - Pick her up and carry her around - Kiss her forehead - Kiss her cheek - Always offer her a hug. From the front and from behind - Pet/pat her head - Pat her diapered butt - Boop her nose - Wiggle her piggy toes - Blow raspberries on her belly - Hold her when she’s sad - Wipe away her tears and console her - Be her safe place to go when she needs one - Hold her when she’s shivering - Play with her hair - Take pictures with her - Put her drawings/colorings on your fridge - Interact in her little space - Lose to her puppy dog eyes - Ask her if there is something daddy can help with - Leave her cute easy to read notes, or little pictures to show you care - Let her smell you, spray your cologne on something for her - Let her wear one of daddy’s “grown up” shirts around the house

Physical Care! ——————————————————– - Kissing her ouchies - Calling any injuries ouchies or boo boo’s - Give colorful Bandaid’s with childish designs - Wrap her up and tell her she’s brave for not crying (Or tell her that anyway even her tears have subsided) - Rub her tummy when it hurts - Hold her hand in public so she doesn’t wander off - Help her get something she can’t reach - Buckle her seatbelt - Order for her - Never let her pay - Let her pick out a toy or treat, and buy it for her - Randomly bring her paci to her - Telling her to say “ah” before putting her paci in her mouth - Take her somewhere it would be okay to dress as a little - Open doors for her - Cover her eyes with your hands to hide them from scary or inappropriate things - Let her help you pick something out - Frequent diaper checks - Surprise her with a ‘little’ gift if you haven’t seen her in awhile - Pack a diaper bag in front of her if you’re both going out so she sees firsthand all the little stuff you are bringing along

Time to Get Ready for the day, Baby Girl! ——————————————————– - Good morning text when you’re not around - Pull her close and give her a good morning kiss - Ask her about her dreams - Change her diapers. Baby Wipes, Powder, ointment when needed, baby lotion and a kiss at the end for being good during her change - Undress her - Give her a bubble bath - Wash her hair (make sure she closes her eyes so she doesn’t get shampoo in them when you rinse) - Dry her off with a towel - Choose what she wears for the day - Dress her - Tie her shoes for her - Help her put her jacket or coat on and zip it up for her - Brush her hair - Give her bows, pig tails, or anything else she needs to feel cute

Chore Time & Learning Time! ——————————————————– - Give her a routine - Set up a chore chart - Ask her to think if there was anything she forgot to do today - Help her with a difficult chore - Help her make a difficult choice, spell out the options of each - Ask her to put away her toys - Ask her to gather all her dirty clothes for you to wash - Remind her to say “Please” and “Thank you” - Ask her to count something. (How many apples do we have left? How many cars are there in line? How many fingers am I holding up?) - Ask her the color of something - Ask her to identify some basic shapes - Tell her to read you something easy - Ask her to spell something easy - Ask her to do basic math (1 animal cracker +2 raisins =?) - Ask her if she has any homework, if she needs help with her homework, or if she’s finished her homework

Meal Time! ——————————————————– - Handing her a sippy with a yummy drink - Handing her a bottle (ba-ba) - Tell her to keep both hands on her drink so she doesn’t spill - Put her in a bib before meals - Sitting her in a high chair or booster seat when practical is preferred - Remind her to wash her hands before a meal - Refilling her sippy for her so she doesn’t spill - Blowing on hot food - Cutting her food for her - Cut the icky crusts off her sandwiches - Feeding her her food - Airplane or other playfulness to make sure she eats her meal - When out to eat, ask for a kid’s menu (and crayons where applicable) - Wipe her mouth or hands off when she gets messy - Tell her to be a good girl and finish what’s on her plate - A sweet treat every now and then - Ask her to count one of her food items or tell you the color of different things on her plate - Telling her no sweets so she doesn’t ruin her next meal - Use dishes and silverware meant for toddlers. Plastic forks with dull prongs or plastic plates with cartoon designs on them are best

Play Time! ——————————————————– - Surprise trips to the park - Push her on the swing - Take her to play with puppies and kitties - Those little kid trips every Little dreams about (Disney World) - Sand castles at the beach, snow forts in snow, leaf piles in the fall - Kiddie pool out back on a hot summer day - Take her on a “themed” little date - Playing with her toys with her - Joining her in her tea party - Referring to her stuffies by name - Interacting with her stuffies as if they’re living - Remembering little stories or traits about her stuffies - Invite her to a surprise tea party with her stuffies and you - Puppet show! Or more likely an interactive story using her stuffies - Play pretend with her. Put yourself in the imaginary world she has chosen - Ask her about her imaginary friend - Let her play dress up with her clothes or your adult clothes - Color with her - Make her something while drawing or doing arts and crafts - Finger painting somewhere it’s okay to make a mess - Sidewalk chalk outdoors with her - Play little aged games (Candyland, for example) - Build her a blanket fort - Piggy back rides - Give her upsies! Toss her up and catch her (if practical) - Chase her around the room/house/yard - Suggest a movie meant for little ones - Watch cartoons with her - Play a cute 2 player game. Co-op, or competitive (but let her win once in awhile) - Sing-a-long songs. Have her sing them or dance - Have a play pen set up and/or the foam piece flooring set up in their main playing area

Bed Time! ——————————————————–

- Ask if shes ready for bed. “Bed-Time, Beddy Bye Time, Ni-Night time, etc” - Remind her to brush her teeth and go potty before bed - Dress her in her jammies and night-time diaper - Ask her which stuffie she wants to sleep with and put it in her arms - Find her favorite blanket, her “blankie” and give it to her - Tuck her in - Read bedtime stories - Make up a fairy tail story for her – Ask for her input in your made up story - Sing or hum her a lullaby - Ask her if she needs her night light, plug it in if she does - Check for monsters (closet, under bed, hallway) - Keep her safe from the dark, the thunderstorms, or the meanies in her life - Be her big spoon - Let her fall asleep on you - Goodnight texts when you’re not around - Be there for her if she has nightmares. Tell her everything is okay now that Daddy is here.

Important Things to Ask or Say! ——————————————————– - “Did you go potty?” “Do you need to go potty?” - “Do you need to be changed?” - “Did you go pee-pee?” “Did you make a mess?” - “Did you take your medicine like a big girl?” - “Be careful baby” - “Make sure you stay close to Daddy” - “You’re too little to do that!” - “Does baby need a hand?” - “Did you learn anything new today?” - “Do you need anything from Daddy?” - “Do you love Daddy?” - “What does my little girl want to do today?” - “Tell me everything about your day. I want to know!” - “Which veggie is the most icky?” - “Are you ticklish? Where is your most tickliest spot?” - “Are you scared of the dark?” - “Which Stuffie is the one to which you tell all your secrets?” - “Which dinosaur is best?” - “What shape do you want your (Sandwich, Pancakes, Cookies, etc.) in?” - “Where’s the best hiding spot for hide and seek?” - “Which drink is the bestest, most yummiest drink?” - “What color is your toothbrush?” - “What does baby want for her birthday?” - “Which snacks make you feel the Littlest?” - “Other than stuffies, what other Little toys do you have? Cars? Tea Set? a Red Wagon?” - “Remember we give puppies (or kitties) soft pets” - “We try and color inside the lines, don’t we baby girl?”

Punishment Time! ——————————————————– - If she’s not being good, tell her to behave herself - If she continues to misbehave, threaten a spanking - Make sure she doesn’t say inappropriate words - Make sure she doesn’t get into anything meant for adults; (babies get curious!) - Make sure she shares her toys and plays well with others - Put her in a nap if she’s fussy - Put her in time out if she’s being naughty - Make her say out loud why she’s being punished - Make her write lines outlining how she misbehaved - Use your stern daddy or mommy voice - Avoid yelling, shouting, or raising your voice if at all possible - If all else fails, over the knee spanking (diapered or bare bottomed)

Last, but not least,

YOU’RE HER WHOLE WORLD, and she needs to know that she is your whole world too!

Language Play, Qu'est-ce Que c'est?

Republished for your reading pleasure. And to all who attended my Language Play 101 Class at CAP '23- thank you!!!

What is language play?

Language domming, or language play, is a highly immersive activity where a little or sub experiences speech and media exclusively in a foreign language they either don’t know and at all or have very little knowledge of. For the purposes of most of this guide, I’ll be focusing specifically on language play in an AB/DLs or ageplay context, but it is possible to work into some other kinks - I’ll get to that near the end. 

The appeal, especially when you’re dealing with ABs and ageplayers, is pretty clear. Rather than your little having to pretend they’re too little to understand what all the grown-ups are saying, well, they genuinely won’t understand what all the grown-ups are saying. They won’t be able to grasp most of the things you’re saying to them. They won’t be able to read along with storybooks - they’ll just have to look at the pictures and use their imaginations. They’ll consume simple cartoons the way a young toddler would. And all of this, if presented with the right amount of love and care, can make your little feel very, very little. 

I do want to make it clear here that I didn’t invent this idea. A number of bigs, CGs, and doms I’ve spoken to have used native tongues or foreign picture books to make their littles feel little. It’s even come up in some fantasy writing, where an international setting, or even an extraterrestrial one, leaves a little with a babyish inability to communicate. But I haven’t seen it formally spoken about much, so I figured I would share this guide with you all.      

So how does it work?

Language play sessions normally last a few hours, but if you’re feeling adventurous (and very well prepared) you can stretch it for a day or more. The idea is to completely immerse your little in the target language for as long as you’re playing. Speak to them only in that language. Show them cartoons in that language. Read them stories for bedtime and naptime in that language. The more activities you have to help immerse them - children’s board games and card games, toys that say foreign phrases, even alphabet blocks for non-Latin languages - the more wonderful possibilities there are. 

When playing, your little may try to say things to you in English (or whatever you usually speak), and there are a few ways to handle this. You can enforce that they can’t, with spankings and other punishments, or just with a wag of the finger and a reminder of ‘non, non, en français, s'il vous plaît’ or the equivalent. Alternatively, you can just pretend not to understand them, looking quizzical and bemused (but do listen to what they’re saying, in case it’s important). In either case, as long as you don’t break into English yourself, your little will start to get used to it, and will lean more on non-verbal communication and whatever simple words or phrases they’re able to pick up (and often butcher in the cutest possible way). 

Of course, your little one not being able to talk means there’s a whole lot more they’re not going to be able to do for themselves. You’re going to have to choose their activities, so be sure to plan ahead and know your little’s likes well. You’re going to have to give some diaper checks without asking - well, you can ask, but it’s not like they’ll know that you did. You’ll also be the one figuring out the menu, and you may want to feed your little directly to add to the ageplay immersion. 

Because this is one of the more intense ageplay activities, and because communication during play can be difficult, preparation and communication beforehand is key. Learn your little’s likes and limits, make sure to put away any grown-up distractions (work phones, etc.) and set time aside firmly, and have cues in place to use as safewords (and STOP IMMEDIATELY if you see them). Oh, and when you’re done, be sure to have a gentle, warm, snuggle and talk through the experience - your little is going to have a lot they want to tell you, and you might have quite a bit to share as well. 

What if I’m not fluent in a foreign language? Can I play too?

YES! Believe it or not, you don’t have to be native or fluent in your target language to use it for a wonderful, immersive play experience. In Part II of this guide, I’m going to walk through some key words and phrases to focus on, so that you can be ready to immerse your little with just a few weeks of practice, a bit of strategic Googling, and a whole lotta love. 

Soaked 😳💦

Thanks for the question, Anon!

I absolutely love living within my 24/7 D/s dynamic with my partner/Daddy and it's something that I'm passionate to share about as I know it can seem like a really fun, but daunting idea. How do you take that fantasy and walk it out in real life within a committed adult relationship in a life partner sense?

I began wearing diapers 24/7 because @resonantyes expressed an interest in creating that rule within our budding dynamic a couple of years ago. We discussed what that would practically look like and also what we would want this rule to feel like to us within our relationship. I loved the idea as it would make me feel connected to him on a daily basis as we were in a long distance relationship at that time.

We came up with a few blanket rules that are still in effect today:

Diapers are the default, always. (Even when with potential other play partners and with my other partner.)

I am allowed to wear pull-up type undies (Goodnites, Ninjamas, etc.) when I am with family and also when I'm teaching or taking a yoga or other fitness class.

I can always ask if there are other reasons or occasions that I wish to wear pull-ups or undies. This request will be heard with good adult reasoning and may or may not be granted. ie) for a fancy dress situation, because I want to wear a lingerie set, for creating content, because I'm getting rashy and my skin needs a breather, etc.

A newer rule that emerged as time went on is that I am to use my diaper for everything...everything except in the case of traveling, staying with family/friends, or some other socially inappropriate time.

I have come to view my diaper as my collar of sorts. It is a sign of my commitment to Daddy, a role that he takes very seriously and with great care, honor, and respect. There is this low-level current underscoring my life reminding me that I am his, just as he is mine, with every crinkly step I take. We always leave space to bring concerns to each other and even purposely have check-ins about how we're both feeling within our dynamic. We ask questions like does anything need to be adjusted or perhaps added? Are we feeling happy and fulfilled in the ways that we want to be? Am I being a good girl? Is he being a good Daddy? Is this still the best thing for our relationship?

Many partners new to Diaper Discipline struggle to increase their involvement, the below list is designed to provide ideas and inspiration for you to implement in daily life.

You don't need to do all of these every day but try incorporating 2-4 elements a day and work up in terms of frequency and progressing from Beginner items to Intermediate & Advanced.

Beginner

Make an effort to talk about their diapers. Casually ask things like:‍

“How’s your diaper holding up?” “Your waistband is showing baby” “Do you need to change?” “Those jeans hide your diaper well” “These diapers look cute on you” “Do you need to order more diapers soon?” ‍

Let them know you expect them to use their diaper, by saying things like:

- “This diaper should hold all of your wee’s and poops” when changing them into a fresh diaper - “Remember you’re not allowed to use the toilet today” - “Did you wet your diaper like a good boy/girl?”  - “Good boy/girl for messing your diaper.“ - “Did you poop today or do you need something to help tonight?” ‍

Make an effort to interact with their diaper. Squeeze it, pat/smack their bottom when padded, rub the front of it to get them excited, and when hugging place a hand on their diapered bum, etc. ‍

Implement simple Baby elements:

- Call them your baby boy/girl, etc - Dress them in baby-style (AB) clothes at night  - Give them a bedtime drink in a sippy cup or baby bottle - Have them use a adult pacifier at night ‍

Each morning check their diaper, this can be done in bed by just squeezing the front of it. ‍

It will likely be wet so comment on that by saying something like “I’m glad you had a diaper on or you’d have wet the bed” or “You really are turning into a bedwetter aren’t you” ‍

After their morning shower either change them into a fresh diaper if you’re up, or if you're still in bed, get them to come over and drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing one. ‍‍

Each evening lay out a thick diaper and ABDL bedtime clothing and tell them to go get ready for bed. This should be a few hours before you actually go to bed. ‍

Before leaving the house make them drop their trousers / lift skirt so you can check they're wearing a diaper. For day trips, also ask them if they've got their diaper bag packed. ‍

Once or twice a week force them to mess themselves by giving them either 2x Ducolax tablets or a suppository which they must take/insert. ‍

When not wearing diapers, make them wear pull-ups, training pants, girly underwear (if male), or childish patterned pants. 

When at home and not working dress them in embarrassing clothing, good options include:

- No bottoms / exposed diapers - ABDL onesie / romper - A skirt (male or female) - ABDL shortalls or dress - Childish 2-piece PJs - Footed sleeper

Experiment with light bondage:

- Add a locking diaper cover over their diapers - Restrain them to a bed for 2 hours after making them insert a suppository - Chain them to their desk using locking ankle cuffs or diaper cover - Use other locking clothing to prevent diaper access (e.g. rear zipping footed sleepers)

‍

Intermediate

In public, ask them about their diaper or do a subtle diaper check (squeeze front/back) when nobody will hear or see.

Add more elements of babying:

- Feed them a bottle of milk each night - Make them sleep with a teddy - Talk to them like a baby during diaper checks and changes - Make them use a pacifier in the daytime

Encourage them to mess in their diaper for convenience. For example, if heading out for the day ask them to fill their diaper before leaving so they won’t mess in public.

If you notice their wet diaper is starting to smell take them by the hand, lay them down, and change their diaper. Don’t ask if they need one or make it a choice. ‍

Surprise them by buying new ABDL items (clothing, diapers, pacifiers, etc)

Punish any bad behavior by making their diaper experience less pleasant:

- Smack them until crying before changing them into a new diaper - Add elements of forced regression such as locking mittens, pacifier gag, restraints  - Make them stay in messy diapers for extended periods - Feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Treat him as a sissy/girl with pink diapers and female clothing or baby girl AB items.

Twice a week, force them to mess themselves. Insert a suppository into their bum (wear disposal gloves) or use a fleet-enema (no gloves required) during a change.

Make them ask you for permission to get changed and use the opportunity to inspect their diaper. If it doesn’t look full, make them wait 1-2 hours longer.

Get them ready for bed each evening by changing them into thick diapers and dressing them in ABDL clothes.

At home only allow thick or ABDL diapers to be worn.

Take them shopping while diapered to buy new medical diapers, pull-ups, feminine/childish underwear/clothing, and other baby supplies (powder, baby food, etc)‍

Make their diapered / baby status obvious around your home when visitors aren’t present:

- Have a dedicated changing area with diapers stacked up clearly - Keep a pacifier next to their bed - Have a few ready-made bottles in the fridge - Hang up their ABDL clothes so they’re easily accessible ‍

Make them wear a swim diaper on vacation (at the beach/pool)

If they're male, experiment with treating him as a sissy/girl some days:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Butt plugs - Chastity

‍

Experiment with more bondage:

- Use locking mittens at night - Restrain them to a bed overnight after giving them 2x ducolax tablets - Add ankle and chest restraints to their office chair to prevent movement while working from home - Use a pacifier gag regularly

Advanced

Change their diaper while out in public. ‍

Look for a changing places toilet (Europe) or a standard accessible restroom can be used by bringing a disposal changing mat for the floor. You can also change them laying down over the back seats of your vehicle if in a secluded area.

Increase Babying:

- Create a baby bed for them, ideally a single bed with childish sheets, teddies, and restraints to simulate being locked in a crib. This can be used for naps or overnight punishments. - Regularly feed them a blended or cut-up version of their meal. Use a bib and mittens to force them to let you feed them. - Make them wear mittens to bed each night  - Force them to crawl by using training booties (small spikes prevent standing) - Pacifier must be attached to them at all times while at home - Setup a playpen which they must stay in for extended periods (even if still doing more adult activities like being on a phone or gaming)

Force them to mess themselves in front of you.

Administer a suppository or fleet enema but make them stay laying or sitting next to you. Encourage and then tease them for messing themselves like a baby.

Occasionally change them out of their messy diapers. Disposal gloves and adult wipes are recommended.

Force them to mess themselves while out of the house:

- Hand them a suppository to go and insert after finishing a meal at a restaurant. They'll have to try to hold until you’ve got the bill and left. - On long drives make them insert a suppository when you’re still 1-2 hours away from your home/destination - Administer a suppository or fleet enema before sending them to go shopping or other out-of-home chores.

Incorporate bondage into their forced babying by:

- Use locking diaper covers, plastic pants, or onesies to prevent self-changing - Attach hands and feet to restraints during changes - Restrain them overnight - Use a straightjacket 

Take them shopping to buy supplies from an ABDL shop 

If male, treat him as a sissy most or all of the time at home:

- Pink / girl-themed diapers - Feminine ABDL clothing (onesies, rompers, etc) - Women’s clothing (dresses, skirts, leggings) - Chastity cage - Pegging

Dress them as a baby most or all of the time at home:

- Exposed diapers & babyish t-shirts  - Baby-themed onesies (not plain) - Baby dresses/rompers - Baby-style socks & tights - No adult clothes (if working from home, adult clothes can be worn on top but the lower half should still be babyish)

Force them to lose control by adding laxatives without their knowledge to some meals and drinks (have prior consent to do this).

Restrict their diaper changes to certain times ensuring they’ll sometimes have to wait a few hours to change out of well-used diapers.

Switch to thick or ABDL diapers exclusively, making them less discrete in public.

Increase use of bondage:

Slipping them that extra little “good job” after basic tasks and watching their cheeks get hot and their eyes dart around the room.

Asking them to grab a drink and watching the jolt in their step when they register the word “fetch” a second too late.

The back and forth debates and silly arguments ending in cutting them off with a simple “you’re so cute when you get excited”

Many littles, myself included need their little space to cope with stress and bad things in life. For every caregiver, enjoy their little space with them. Don’t get frustrated when they want to regress. Here’s just a few things to keep them safe in their little space when they’re having a bad day:

1. If they’re busy coloring or watching cartoons, bring them some chocolate milk and cookies.

2. If your little is having a really bad day and doesn’t want to get out of bed, then get in bed with them. Some compliments may get her to peek her head over the covers. Let them cling to you as much as they want.

3. Never resort to punishment when a little is suffering from depression. Ask if they’re ready to talk, don’t push the issue. They should know you’re there for them when the time finally does come.

4. Make sure you use their “nicknames” if they want to stay in little space. Only address them as kitten, princess, little boy etc.

5. Try to get your little outside. Pack a picnic, bring some bubbles, and an outdoors game if they feel up to it. Going outside and getting fresh air can work wonders.