the globe & female

I always found it so fucked up how women are forced to learn about male historians, geniuses, painters and philosophers and see them as smart and good people when they saw women as literal shit on their shoe, for example Albert Einstein, Aristotle, Norman Mailer, Martin Luther, Paul Gauguin, Thomas Aquinas, Picasso, Napoleon, Confucius, Dalí, etc.

I remember I got in trouble at school for saying male historians and geniuses who saw women as subhuman aren’t great and I refuse to praise them for their achievements. Imagine what this does to girls and their self esteem.

i am against sex work

i am not against the women who have gone through it, are going through it, carry trauma from it, reopen old wounds from it every night, and participate in it

i am saying my heart hurts for these women

my heart hurts for any woman who feels she is so out of options that she has to use her body to turn a profit

i feel disgust, anger, and hatred at the industry and culture that grooms, forces, and manipulates women into doing sex work

i feel sadness at knowing the cycle will only continue

This isn't to criticise her specifically (I'm a big fan of her as an actor, which is why I read this interview) because I think it speaks to a much wider issue. And I'm not necessarily surprised that she said this, and I do find it incredibly annoying, but I think it really exemplifies what a lot of "queer" and "nonbinary" people are trying to say about themselves with these labels.

Thank you for putting this into words because I haven’t been able to figure out how to say “no, cultural appropriation is not fake, but also idk what happened in the last few years but it seems like woke white people completely took over the conversation”

When I used to plan luxury events, I worked a ton of Indian weddings, Pakistani weddings, and in general a bunch of Muslim/Islamic/Hindu weddings of varying levels of faith. That meant wearing hair coverings, sometimes all day, sometimes just for the ceremonies (if you’re under the Mandap or at the Mehndi or Heena ceremony, you wear a hair covering. If it’s during or after the Baraat, you wear a hair covering, but again, sometimes you just wear it all day depending on the family. A lot of families provide hair coverings of their color choice to anyone who is working the wedding, or any wedding guests who wouldn’t own one). You know who was giving me dirty looks on the days I wore my covering? Woke white people.

Two of my all time favorite brides were both Indian brides that I was lucky enough to work with for all three days of their weddings. We bonded a lot and, idk sometimes it’s just ‘I’m working for you’ and sometimes it’s ‘we are going to be best friends by the time your wedding is over’. These brides were the latter. The first bride chose a Bindi for me on her third day because she said it matched my eyes. The second bride had her hair stylist undo my bun and braid some of her jasmine into my hair, and then also chose a Bindi for me. I was so touched that she wanted me to wear these things that were specifically chosen for her wedding even though I wasn’t family. Her whole family was so sweet/excited about it, and again, guess who was giving me weird looks all day? Guess who approached me to talk about cultural appropriation as if I hadn’t been in this industry for years? Two woke white people. Like, I’m not putting on a bindi and fake ‘sexy saree’ as a Halloween costume. I was given a really sweet gift by two women on one of the most special days of their lives.

Something me and my girlfriend say all the time: American ‘leftists’ are running in circles so tight they’re biting their own tails off and ending up right back where they started.

Get so into trans ideology that we end up right back with hardcore traditionalist gender norms.

Get so into the concept of cultural appropriation that we end up right back to people giving dirty looks for any culture-sharing

Get so into the concept of womens sexual and body liberation that we end up back to women being purchasable sex objects, and makeup and non-functional clothing being a good and empowering thing

Get so into the concept of "Karens" that it no longer means "a boomer white woman throwing a very generation-specific tantrum and abusing her privilege", and is now just another word for "bitch" and a way to tell any woman with any opinion you don't agree with to shut up.