both trans men and trans women are punished for our proximity to both feminity and masculinity. people decide when we are men or women based on what is the WORST option at the moment. we both get treated like women only when someone needs to infantalize us or call us bossy, bitchy, stupid, vapid. we both get treated like men when someone wants to demonize and paint us as violent, predatory, abusive, perverted. NONE of us are benefiting from any gendered privilege, because we are always treated like the worst of either gender depending on the scenario. this is something all trans people experience, regardless of agab, both trans men and trans women. so why do we assume that the other side has the opposite experience as us?? why do you think that because your life as a trans man or a trans woman is painful, that a trans person of a different gender must have the opposite experience?? like i just dont get the preschool level understanding of gender like "well boys and girls are opposites so of course our experiences are opposites too" we are living the same transphobia and if you cant see it you need to listen to other people more
I want to staple this post to the foreheads of a huge swath of the trans people on this site. Specifically here and at this time. My IRL trans community, my other online trans communities, all get this. Granted those are both significantly more curated but still. WE HAVE TO HAVE EACH OTHERβS BACKS BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE WILL. I donβt get what is so hard about that concept. We are all having the same sorts of experiences. I have more in common with my trans-femme girlfriend than my cis ex. And this is NOT because I was badly matched with my ex. Maybe my girlfriend injects her hormones with a different size needle than I do, but weβre both still holding a fucking needle you know???
Anyway, trans solidarity is a matter of basic survival right now. Stop doing the fascistsβ work for them by turning on your trans siblings. Itβs actively dangerous.
