SLAY ME SWIFTLY

ANYWAY i’m not part of this weird underground coven that hoards unreleased Taylor songs and I don’t pretend to have all of them but I do have most of the early ones which you can feel free to download here. I feel like most people probably already have these but if you’re just seeing the discourse today and wondering what is up, hopefully this helps. Let me know if I’m missing any that I should add to this. 

I think part of getting better is complete ego death. Like you’re not above setting a timer for 5 minutes and focusing on a task. You’re not above doing a very simple 3 minute workout to start. You’re not above reading for 10 minutes a day when you first get out of your reading slump, even if you used to read for hours. You’re not above starting slow and then building up to where you want to be/where you once were. What you are above is total inertia. Doing something really is better than doing nothing. Radically accept where you are, radically accept your limits, and go from there. Don’t let your ego get in the way.

I think part of getting better is complete ego death. Like you’re not above setting a timer for 5 minutes and focusing on a task. You’re not above doing a very simple 3 minute workout to start. You’re not above reading for 10 minutes a day when you first get out of your reading slump, even if you used to read for hours. You’re not above starting slow and then building up to where you want to be/where you once were. What you are above is total inertia. Doing something really is better than doing nothing. Radically accept where you are, radically accept your limits, and go from there. Don’t let your ego get in the way.

Your power is found in facing the parts of you that believe you don’t have any. The simplest way to recognize them is this is to notice what triggers you. What you procrastinate on. What you avoid. What feels too big, too uncomfortable, too exposing. That’s where your power is hiding and these reflections will typically come in the form of another person. In the things they say, the patterns they mirror and the emotions they activate in you, what you tolerate. Not because they are the problem but because they are revealing where the work still is. What you feel strongly about in others is often pointing you back to something in yourself that’s ready to be met

I think it's so important and crucial for 20 year olds to witness older people who are genuinely bad at some aspects of being a person but are still living lives they find meaningful and enjoyable. Not just "oh I got married and you can too" but like. sometimes you cannot for the life of you finish college or find a good job or stay in a relationship or arrive to locations on time or whatever it is you think when you're 20 that you HAVE to be able to do. But you wind up finding a place in the world anyway. It happens!

one of the most boring lessons I’ve learned is that when a task feels overwhelming, you just have to start doing it. Even if you’re not sure how to do 90% of it, look for one small component that seems close and start there. Sometimes it’s reading one article on the topic, or searching one related term, or literally just googling how to do the task. Do anything other than thinking about it. The process of working on a thing inherently makes it less scary.

IDENTITY EMERGES ORGANICALLY FROM ACTION

Competence and presentation are completely separate things and confusing them is how you end up dependent on other people for your basic survival which is worst position available to any woman regardless of how soft her life looks from the outside. You need to be able to survive independently, manage a home, handle emergencies and navigate the physical world without requiring a man to be present and willing every time something needs doing. That is just basic adult functionality and opting out of it because it feels incongruent with a feminine identity is a form of helplessness that has been romanticized into something it is not.

you really do have to learn how to forgive yourself for all of it

Be different and unique. Avoid cliches, trends, or being a copy of a copy. They are incredibly unattractive to your soul and will participate in blocking you from living in your highest most prosperous timeline. They can also result in illness in the long run. That’s because what is often popular may not be what is true for you. What everyone is doing is not always what your body, spirit, creativity, life force, gut, or life is asking of you. Even if you have a little success, you may struggle with it being sustainable. Instead, get into the details of doing the real work. Doing the feet-to-ground work for real likely will result in you moving a bit slower. But no worries. You’ll get to that next level before you know it but without being broken or injured in your tissues. —India Ame’ye

everything's fine and everyone thinks you're hot

needed this thank u

realizing nothing can fill my void other than doing everything i said i would do for myself