The 3 Liliths đ„đđ·
There are 3 different Liliths (and one Mean Lilith) that averages all three into one.
 Asteroid Lilith, Black Moon Lilith, & Dark Moon Lilith.
This is a pretty good video that covers the mythology behind Lilith, if you are unfamiliar with her backstory. The 3 Liliths are distinct in each their own way and depicts a different portion of the Lilith story/myth, carrying with it its own unique symbolism based on that part of the story. Hence, each type of Lilith corresponds to a specific segment within the overarching âdark feminineâ theme that we associate with Lilith in the natal chart.
The Asteroid Lilith represents the first stage within her story - as she was suppressed, humiliated, and flees into the wilderness. The Black Moon Lilith is associated with how she transmuted her distorted image back into a natural, healthy expression. The Dark Moon Lilith represents the pain she experienced while in exile and how she plotted and executed her revenge.
đ„ASTEROID LILITH đ„
a solid representation found in the asteroid belt between Mars and Jupiter
keywords: rebellion, exile, fighting for freedom, confrontational, equality, impulsive, unconventional, asexual, instinctual, hands-on
Lilithâs earthy and practical representation, as she existed as a human
her protest at not being equal to Adam
đ BLACK MOON LILITH đ
consists of the True/Osculating (the one most emphasized astrologers, they place this as the most important to examine), and the Mean/average (the âdefaultâ Lilith selection on astro.com, said to be insufficient and unreliable)
keywords: magic vs sorcery, forbidden fruit, angels vs demons, animal magnetism, seduction, supernatural, intuition, psychic, charisma, addiction, obsession
 not a physical body in space, but a point of alignment - the apogee of the Moonâs orbit, where she is farthest from Earth in her orbit
BML ties into the forbidden fruit part of the myth, where Lilith comes back as a serpent (symbolizing occult knowledge)
đȘDARK MOON LILITHÂ đȘ
takes the form of a sphere-shaped dust cloud and is known as a âghost moonâ
keywords: vengeance, demons, the shadow, rage, anti-mother, nightmares, ghosts, depth psychology, emotional pain, madness, catharsis
associated with the hurt, nasty side  of Lilith when she killed babies as revenge for being banished
this side of Lilith can be used constructively without the ego, to release negativity through creative means
DML can work either two ways: either you face your demons and release them safely, or bury them, running the risk of them taking control over us psychologically
To find out your three Liliths, go to Astro.com under Extended Chart Selection
Note: the âLilithâ that is in the selection box is the Mean/average Lilith that takes your Asteroid Lilith/BML/and DML points and averages them. This Mean Lilith is advised by many astrologers to not be used, as it should be examined in its individual parts since each part is slightly different and plays its own unique role, as described above.
Instead, in the blank fill-in box for additional objects, type:
h13 for Black Moon Lilith, appears on the chart as Lilith (o)
h58Â for Dark Moon Lilith, appears on the chart as âWaldemathâ
đ„Your Asteroid Lilith position (1181) đ„
corresponds to phase one of the Lilith myth, addressing:
âHow do I rebel against being denied freedom and expression of my sexuality?â
Aries: By pushing my own way and agenda on to others
Taurus: By overindulging and refusing to pull away from comfort and pleasure
Gemini: By using words and logical reason as my weapon
Cancer: By using past hurts and old wounds against others to protect myself
Leo:Â By assuming a high and mighty position over others
Virgo: By behaving with a false purity or modesty
Libra: By overemphasized vanity and superficiality
Scorpio: By being extreme in my behavior, beliefs, and actions
Sagittarius: By leaving others behind to be where the âgrasses are greenerâ
Capricorn: By being cold and detached and lacking personability
Aquarius: By purposefully reaking havoc just for the sake of being rebellious
Pisces: By avoiding problems, reality, and responsibility
đȘYour Dark Moon Lilith position (h58)Â đȘÂ
corresponds to phase two of the Lilith myth, which covers:
âHow do I behave at my absolute worst, plot revenge, when I am hurt?âÂ
Aries: I lash out, become belligerent, behaving and reacting impulsively with no thought for others
Taurus: I lose my patience and plow through others, refusing to move or see any other perspective but my own
Gemini: I backstab and show my dual nature, saying one thing but take contradicting actions
Cancer: I play the victim, become manipulative with my emotions to incite pity from others
Leo: I cause dramatics, a scene, become overbearing, pushing my will onto others
Virgo: I pick out their deepest flaws and focus in on themÂ
Libra: I switch sides often and act fake to manipulate others to get on my side
Scorpio: I hold in every little hurt from the past, and remember everyoneâs weaknesses and exploit them accordingly
Sagittarius: I run away and avoid facing commitments or having to keep promises
Capricorn: I plan for world domination and when they see me at the top, theyâll all be sorry
Aquarius: I show my coldest, most detached side, treating others as scientific subjects to be observed and analyzed through a microscope
Pisces: I act behind their back, using methods of subterfuge to get back at my opponent
đYour Black Moon Lilith position (h13)Â đ
corresponds to the final phase of the Lilith myth, which answers:
âHow do I escape the darkness and transform my destructive energy and power into something constructive? What kind of seductive powers do I possess? How do I express the dark side of my sexuality?â
Aries: A sexuality that goes for what it wants which can turn to aggression, ability to take the lead and act as a pro-active sexual pioneer
Taurus: An insatiability towards sex, unstoppable until end goals are reached, powers of creating or manifesting beauty in the everyday
Gemini: Highly variable and changeable sexuality, free-flowing and detached, words and the mind can be constructive or destroy others
Cancer: Sexual approach is comforting and comfortable, although changeable with the moods, passive and self-protective seduction
Leo: Seduction can be dominating and dramatic, uses sexual power to open and warm the hearts of others
Virgo: Seduction through seeming modest, innocent, and pure, a pure and clean sexuality, important to serve and heal rather than try to fix
Libra: Powers that give and receive, knowing true sexual equality, seduction through passive attraction
Scorpio: Power to control others or to create transformational experiences through the use of sex, extreme psychological influence over others
Sagittarius: An exploration of sexuality through mind, body, and spirit, can teach and broaden peopleâs perspectives when it comes to sex
Capricorn: Shows sexual patience, prowess, and stamina, an authoritarian and controlling sexual side
Aquarius: Takes the unconventional or shameful, weird side of sex and normalizing it, teaching new ways of expressing sexuality, an openness towards all types of sexuality
Pisces: Powers of sensing and intuition, seduction through the promise of escape, an addiction to losing the self through sex
As with everything else, be sure to take into account house position of your three Liliths, as this will show where these energies are acting out in your life.Â
Where Asteroid Lilith is will show up in a more practical, manifestation because it is a physical body and representation of Lilith, its is what we can see, the action we are consciously taking.
BML is much more of a psychological manifestation, so you are more likely to feel or sense its influence rather than see it played out tangibly.Â
DML is also very subtle and subconscious in its outward expression, it can play out subconsciously and may not be something you notice at first, although it is still very much present and acting out.
Aspects are also important of course, and you can end up working with your Lilith positions or against it.Â
Supportive aspects from the Sun and Mars can show a constructive relationship with Lilith - you are able to work your dark feminine with your masculine energies, rather than against them.Â
Supportive aspects with Moon and Venus help to easily blend together and harmonize your conventional and unconventional feminine energies.Â
Afflictions to Lilith point to a repression and burying of your natural, instinctive side, rather than embracing or expressing it.Â
Contacts with the Sun, Moon, or Ascendant will make Lilith very prominent and emphasized in your personality, and others will be quick to notice. Â
Contacts with the Descendant will bring out Lilith in your interactions with others, or you may attract Lilith types.
Contacts with the Midheaven will bring our your Lilith to the public, as they will see or hear about that side of you and may possibly fear you.
Very similar to Pluto, the way to work with your Lilith is to embrace it for what it is and to allow yourself to be âtoo muchâ sometimes, regardless of what other people think of you - the only way out of the darkness is to go through it.Â