I really fuck with with your recent posts because for years Iāve seen other Laura fans say things like āLaura shouldnāt be with Julian because heās an asshole and sheās notā and my reaction to that was always āwtf are you talking about?? neither of them are angelsā
Iāve also seen a lot of weird implications that their relationship would turn abusive if it kept going which is so weird. Thereās a double standard that people have about him where they think Julian isnāt capable of bettering himself as a person. I find that idea so weird when a huge part of Lauraās story is her trying to better herself even when others think she canāt.
Honestly I think the āMisadventures in Babysittingā panels are overblown by haters; Julian was kind of having a mental breakdown after losing his hands and thinking he killed Karima⦠and I thought her relationship with Warren was WAY WORSE!
Iāve always had more empathy for Hellion than I did Laura in āMisadventuresā; I never really buy the fan argument that Julian was trying to pressure Laura into a relationship, if anything Julian really did just seem to want Laura to tell him heās not a monster and did nothing wrong.
Laura basically spends the whole issue gaslighting him and telling him everything is fine while being weirdly angry at him. Honestly I never REALLY got why she in-story even bothered to see him (other than fans WANTED Hellion!), if she really was ādone withā the relationship? She didnāt HAVE to see him when she was there? Julian probably wouldnāt have even known since he was staying in his room all the time depressed.
I kind of admittedly have a bias though (ironically people say Liu did too when she was writing this after a bad breakup! lol)- I first read Liuās solo after a really bad āfriend breakupā⦠so the story aspect of Julian feeling abandoned the minute he was struggling and feeling used by Laura after always being there FOR Laura⦠that REALLY resonated with me at the moment.
I think ultimately it taught me a good lesson that you need to have boundaries with how much you ādoā for people and kind of realizing I was accepting toxic friendships because thatās what I subconsciously thought I deserved⦠but yeah šā¦ it definitely colored and colors my reading.
I also really DONāT get fans arguments that āLaura shouldnāt have to be Julianās therapistā- okay, fair⦠but anytime Laura acts shitty to someone else, they should have to accept it just because of her history of CA and because sheās a victim?
The harsh fact of life is, at some point⦠it doesnāt really matter WHAT the reason is that youāre doing what youāre doing. People can only put up with and tolerate so much. Most people arenāt going to dig deeper to figure out why youāre behaving a certain way⦠theyāre just going to assume youāre a jerk!
While I think friendship is ultimately a āgive and takeā and āpicking each other up at timesā⦠I also donāt really get this argument that Laura doesnāt have to be sympathetic to Julian acting like an asshole because of trauma (again⦠fair!) but all the rest of the NXM need to give her a pass during this era of her talking shit because āLaura was traumatizedā.
Itās just a giant double standard that frankly only exists with fans because Julian is MALE and Laura is FEMALE.