I absolutely love your blog and I‘ve taken a lot of the great advice you‘re giving!
I was wondering if you had any tips on the topic of writing plus sized characters.
I struggle with it because I find it hard to subtly hint at it without it feeling like that forced describing of throwing in sentences that have no real importance to the scene just to make clear that people have different bodies.
I‘ve been trying to show not tell, too but it‘s hard.
Would be very helpful if you maybe had some tips. :)
Guide: Writing Plus-Sized Characters
I've been plus-sized for decades, so...
1) Plus-Sized Isn't "Different" or Unusual in Most Places
If you want to write a plus-sized character, you have to get past the idea that being plus-sized is "different" or "abnormal." While specific rates vary from place to place (and there are certainly areas with very low overweight/obesity rates,) in most places at least 20% of teens and adults are overweight or obese.
2) Plus-Sized Is Just a Way a Body Can Be
Think of being plus-sized the same way you think of a character being tall, having freckles, having brown hair, having pink hair, having attached ear lobes, having a pierced lip. Being plus-sized is just the way some people are and it doesn't have to be a huge deal. Your character's plus-sized weight can be a part of who they are but it shouldn't define them. They are more than just their body shape/size.
3) Mention Only When Relevant Like Any Other Characteristic
In much the same way as you don't want to constantly talk about your character's red hair, you don't want to constantly talk about your character being plus-sized. You can bring it up as part of the character's introduction, but after that you only need to mention it when it's relevant. For example, you might remind the reader that your character is a red-head by having him say he didn't like the way a yellow jersey looked with his red hair. In the same way, you could have a plus-sized character say they didn't like the way the jersey fit because it was too tight and their fat rolls were showing.
4) Some Struggles of Folks Who Are Plus-Sized
experiencing "fat phobia" from family, friends, media, and society
being teased, mocked, or bullied because of weight
"well-meaning" but hurtful/pointless diet/exercise advice
clothing isn't in your size or is out in your size
plus-sized clothing awkwardly cut and sometimes ugly
harder to find clothes/underwear you like/fits well in your size
can't fit into required uniforms/wedding-related clothing
may feel shy in swim suit or unflattering required clothing
can't fit easily (or at all) in tight seats in vehicles, rides, theaters...
can't fit through tight openings/areas when others can
car seat belt locks up more easily when you move in seat
exceed weight limit for bike, furniture, ride, horseback riding, etc.
body catches on things in narrow spaces
weak/broken chair/bench/etc. creaks or breaks when you sit on it
doctors who can't get past your weight regardless of specialty
fear of going to doctors because of their weight obsession
being coerced onto diets/meds that don't help/make things worse
The Frustration of People believing/assuming:
you're unhealthy because you're overweight
you have diabetes or heart disease because you're overweight
you choose to be overweight and don't try to lose weight
you don't exercise or are physically out of shape
you must eat overeat and/or eat terribly unhealthy foods
The Frustration of People believing/assuming thin people:
are always healthy because they're thin
never have diabetes or heart disease because they're thin
choose to be thin and work hard for it
always exercise and in good physical shape
always eat sensible portions and never eat unhealthy foods
5) Fat Phobia is Next Level Bonkers
No one is saying that all fat people are healthy. But, here's something a lot of people may find shocking: not all thin people are healthy, either.
Yes, being overweight does increase your risk for certain health problems, but MANY THINGS increase your risk for certain health problems. Smoking significantly increases your risk for lung disease, but that doesn't stop people from glorifying and romanticizing smoking.
You can get diabetes because you're overweight, even though you eat relatively healthily and exercise daily. You can also get diabetes even though you're thin, because you consume too much sugar and junk food every day.
Diet, exercise, and being thin are not a magical combination for everyone. Some people could consist on nothing but carrot sticks, run five miles a day, drink tons of water, and do cardio three times a week, and they would still be overweight. This is just a fact.
Fat-phobic thin people are angry at fat people because they believe fat people are getting something they're not. (Which is fundamentally absurd, btw...) They believe all fat people are sitting around watching Netflix, eating buckets of fried chicken, gobbling down full pints of Ben & Jerry's, and shoving slice after slice of chocolate cake down their gullets. Is this true for some overweight people? Sure. Is it true for all or most? No. Just like all thin people aren't thin because they eat nothing but kale smoothies and do Peloton three times a day.
Fat people can be food-obsessed couch potatoes. Thin people can be food-obsessed couch potatoes. Fat people can have diabetes and heart disease. Thin people can have diabetes and heart disease.
There are no absolutes in either case.
One final thought: if you want to write an overweight character, you should definitely read some books featuring overweight characters. One of my favorite overweight characters is Nina Zenik from the Six of Crows and Nikolai duologies by Leigh Bardugo. She does a great job of making Nina's weight a part of her character without making it her defining characteristic.
Other books to try: Dumplin' by Julie Murphy, The Summer of Jordi Perez by Amy Spalding, This One Summer by Mariko Tamaki, Fat Chance, Charlie Vega by Crystal Maldonado, Get a Life, Chloe Brown by Talia Hibbert, Love is a Revolution by Renee Watson. It's harder to find books with good overweight male representation, but if you know of any, add them to the comments!
I hope that helps in your portrayal!
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