Fantasy Guide to the Royal to Royal Dynamic
I often get asked about how the dynamic works between royals of different nations and I thought I would make this guide to help you beteer understand and write how those interactions would go. Royalty tend to expect formality before they allow themselvesto embrace informality and this goes for evej with other royals. So lets’s get into it.
Who Bows First?
Royalty does bow and curtsy to one another but it is a tricky sort of dance with so many rules that anybody could get caught up with.
With monarchs, they would not bow or curtsy to one another, instead as they are equals they would go for a handshake or a kiss on the cheek or am embrace. They do not address each other by their titles but would refer to each other as “cousin” or “brother/sister” or “my friend”
Consorts, male or female, would bow to monarchs and sovereigns but not to one another as they are equals. They would greet each other with kisses or an embrace or a nod
Princes and princes is a littler tougher. They would not bow to each other if equally ranked, but if they aren’t, say the spouse of a second son meeting the heir’s spouse, they would cursty/bow especially if their spouse wasn’t present. They would address monarchs/consorts by “Your Majesty/Your Grace” until or if told otherwirse by the monarch or consort themselves.
During a State Visit
If one royal family is visting another, and they do from time to time, there are a myriad of concerns that might arise. For example, who enters a room first, who is served first, who gets the first bow/curtsy? It is all very mind-boggling especially if you are a noble or a servant. Generally, this is how the deal goes.
Nobles and servants would bow and address their monarch first, then the guest monarch, them their consort and then the guest consort and then the HRHs in order of precedence. It can be a little confusing.
At events, the host monarch would enter a room first, sometimes with their own spouse but sometimes with the spouse of the guest monarch if they attend the event. The guest monarch would follow closely behind, with the host heir and then the HRHs following after them.
At State banquets, seating is arranged by rank: monarchs at the center next to each other with their consorts beside them, with Princes and Princesses sat on other side according to rank. The first toast would be the honour of the host monarch and usually answered by a speech by the guest monarch and then if the heir wishes to speak, they would be permitted a short speech but usually the two monarchs talking is enough. Non-royal guests and those who are not the monarch/consort being addressed would rise during toasts.
Entente Cordiale
Royalty usually have personal relationswith each other outside being royals. Some are related to a degree or some are just good friends with one another. Royals often wrote to one another or sent each other gifts of their esteem. This correspondence wasn’t exactly scandalous unless the two countries were at war or something. Two consorts writing to each other in peace time? Perfectly fine. The wife of the Crown Prince writing to the monarch of a nation at war with her new nation? That’s not a good look. Most royals would exchange letters or tokens of good will. This is not only just because it is good PR to seem chummy, often royalty found solace in writing letters to perhaps the only people who understood their situation. However, it is advisable not to put anything in a letter they wouldn’t want read on the front of a newspaper - letters can get stolen.
















