#wibta

My aide isn't doing most of the stuff in his job description and might have violated HIPPA. I want to tell his agency which will probably get him fired.

I (M60) recently married my son (M23)'s beloved fiancée (F23). Please note that this was a political arrangement. Ever since the marriage, my son has been depressed. My wife is also deeply unhappy and clearly does not love me. I know this because I caught her in the act of being alone, without a single lady-in-waiting as a chaperone! Naturally, I assumed that she must have quickly dismissed an illicit 'companion' before I arrived - namely, my son. As punishment, I banished my wife's best friend from court, but that still doesn't solve the root of the problem: I suspect adultery between my wife and my son.

I am the king, so it is very important that my wife is faithful to me. It is also important that my son doesn't embarrass me in public. However, at a ceremony where everybody in the kingdom is invited to watch heretics get executed, my son had the audacity to demand to be made regent of one of my provinces. I wouldn't let myself be tricked. I knew he wanted access to an army he can use to kill me, and if he didn't do that, he'd probably try to fight for religious freedom. I refused, and he drew his sword on me! Fortunately, my most trusted confidant (M21) who I met a week ago was there to disarm and arrest him.

Not long after that, my mistress (F25) stole my wife's jewelry box and showed it to me. It turns out that my wife keeps a portrait of my son with her most valued possessions! This is as close to confirmation that they are having an affair as I can get. I am now faced with a difficult decision. My son has stolen my wife from me and threatens to tear down everything our dynasty has fought for! The anguish my son's betrayals have caused me will hound me to my grave. Yet I fear for my immortal soul were I to order his death.

I asked my religious advisor (M80) what I should do, and he told me that God wants me to kill my son. HOWEVER, I don't fully trust his input, because he also tried to threaten me into killing my confidant - my first love! So, I'm trying to find a second opinion. WIBTA for eliminating a traitor and adulterer who is also my son?

I am a low level manager at a charity retail store. I set up an interview for a candidate for a backroom position and the candidate interviewed yesterday. The store manager interviewed her, and the manager said the candidate was "very very shy but extremely sweet, which wouldn't be an issue in the back room".

The manager then had the candidate go to the assistant manager, who was doing the task the candidate was interviewing for. It's a semi-complicated task, so I understand if the candidate kind of just watched what the assistant manager was doing. But I walked away and came back a couple minutes later, and the candidate was in the task area looking over the guides used and the assistant manager was talking to her in a training way, which feels really off for a first interview. After ten or so more minutes, the candidate was thanked for their time and dismissed.

The assistant manager told me that the candidate was "too shy and timid to make goals".

I am seething. You stuck a shy, anxious person in a weird, close scenario (in the task area they were less than a foot apart from each other), doing a task that should be paid training during an interview, and then deny her because she is shy, which has no pertaining qualities to the solo task of the job.

Would I be the asshole if I said something to HR? I really am still ticked off about the managers forcing the interviewee into doing things that would have been paid training to anyone else, and then denying her for no real reason.

WIBTA if I took advantage of the fact that my dad ignores me?

I'm aware that I'm probably TA but I also think I deserve it a little bit.

My dad has a habit of ignoring me in favor of my older sister. Normally, I don't mind too much since we have other family that lives close by that I can talk to but things have changed in the past few months.

Ever since our mom died two years ago (and even before that if I'm honest), my older sister has been the loud and reckless one. When our Dad left for business after Mom died, my sister got pissed at him and threw massive parties at our house every other night, even after he came home. She only got arrested once for drug possession but Dad never really punished her for it. She's done a lot of other things in the past few years; her actions include but are not limited to: 1) the time she was going to run away forever with her boyfriend and lied to both us and her soccer team about where she was on the day of the state championships, 2) the time she ditched classes because she was mad at Dad, 3) the time she snuck away from the coaches with some other members of the soccer team to drink and party at another location and they almost got kidnapped by gang members (I was there for this one too but I digress)

Dad's usual response to her antics is to downplay them or occasionally get stern with her before letting her off. He keeps trying to prove to her that he's there for us and he's not going to run away like he did after Mom died.

Recently, my older sister just randomly decided she wasn't going to college after all and she's staying home and working instead. Which is fine, better than her getting a massive debt for a crappy job. But that means that Dad is even more worried about her than usual. He went out of his way to get her a job (it's part time and she complained about it) (also it's the same place I work and my hours got cut to make room for her) and he's always trying to be There For Her if she wants to talk or whatever.

The problem is, he never makes that kind of time for me. I barely get to talk to him about anything outside of weight training (which I'm not even all that into) and he never offers his help with MY issues (not that he bothers to even find out what they are). I decided to try voicing my needs because communication is usually a good idea in these circumstances. I asked him if he could help me out during an alumi flag football game and help my class win a skip day (I go to a small school). He said he'd try but he couldn't make any promises because of work and then he ended up bailing on me at the last minute.

I was pissed about that so I did something that was, admittedly, a little stupid.

See, my family owns this bar and I have a key. To make up for losing the skip day, I opened it up for my classmates and had a party. Things were actually going pretty okay when I was able to keep an eye on things but I got locked in a supply closet when I was changing out the kegs and things started to get a little crazy. I texted my sister to help me out and she came through (she also tried to give me a lecture about what the hell I thought I was doing). Unfortunately, she showed up right before the cops did and we both got arrested.

Naturally, Dad was fuming about this but, then something interesting happened. He blamed my older sister for everything. EVERYTHING! He didn't even give me the chance to apologize (and I did try, for the record). He even left her in the holding cell overnight and made her clean up the mess in the bar!

Would I be a problem player if I kept a harpy egg?

I'm in a really awkward situation right now. I have... Something? I don't know how to define with this one man. Like I'm attracted to this really intense, passionate guy who's kind of... Really insecure. See, this guy was my music tutor, and I recently got an opportunity to advance my career in music thanks to him.

Until now, none of my interactions with him have been face-to-face. A few weeks ago was the first time we ever met in person. He admitted he'd grown attracted to me, one thing led to another and I went back to his place. For the record, he's a bit older than me, but I'm an adult. I stayed the night, I don't remember everything that happened exactly but what I do recall was wonderful, at least until the morning after.

See, once I could get a good look at the guy's face, I realized he's kinda. Not the best looking man I ever met. He also kind of had a meltdown when I actually saw his face for the first time. It started with him screaming at me, calling me a lot of really cruel things, but then he just... Started crying. From what I could put together, he's been really harshly judged and isolated all his life because of his facial deformity and it's a hell of a trigger for someone to see his face when he isn't expecting it. I couldn't help but feel really sorry for him. At the same time, I'm kind of scared that if he has such a strong temper, he might hurt me in the future if I was to keep seeing him informally after he took me home.

As if that wasn't enough, I also found out recently that my ex-tutor has been up to some really shady shit to support himself, since my music lessons were pro bono. I'm not sure of every pie he's got his fingers in, but he's involved in blackmail and vandalism at least. I'm pretty sure that's how he facilitated that opportunity in my career, for instance.

Anyway, to further complicate things, I met someone else I've kind of always held a candle for since we were kids. See, I had this crush on a boy and I'm pretty sure he liked me back, but circumstances kept us apart and we only really got back in touch as adults. Funny enough, he actually asked me to dinner the same night I ended up going to see the first guy, but. Yeah. That happened.

Anyway, my childhood crush is still really sweet, and he's really into me too, and when I tried to tell other people that I was kidnapped by a deformed musical genius in a mask and whisked away to his lair under the opera house, he was the only person who believed me- at least once my ex-music tutor hanged a man from the roof of the stage.

So, WIBTA if I go out with my childhood friend?