It’s gross how cis gays are like “I’m not a gold star gay. I *gag* ate *puke noises🤮* pussy once.” It’s always in the middle of a conversation or story, and it really shows how casual transphobia is in cis queer communities just as much as cis het.
Also like, it’s just not healthy for the cis gays either? If you translate the gagging and puking you hear something like “I’m not a gold star gay. I didn’t know I was gay right away, and explored my sexuality before coming to this conclusion or maybe I dealt with compulsive heterosexuality. So I’ve eaten cis woman’s pussy once. I know in the cis gay community we often like to reinforce the idea that sex and gender are same. Here is my expression of disgust to show you that I am a Real Gay Man.”
You shouldn’t have to do that to make sure ppl still perceive you as gay? You should be able to talk about your experiences, casually or seriously, without feeling like your friends will question how gay you really are. That’s toxic.
But back to the sexy trans perspective, this is why so many trans ppl feel unwelcome and unsafe in lgbtq spaces.
Why would we feel better in a space that isn’t cis ppl saying “boys have dick and girls have pussy and they sex the end that’s it”,
but is cis ppl saying “boys have dick and girls have pussy and they only do gay sex. gay sex only dick + dick and pussy + pussy no str8 ppl combinations”.
