What do you love about Drarry?
Oh my, what a beautiful question!! I thought twice about posting this, but then I thought ālife is short, who cares?ā I wonāt apologize for my thoughts even if there are so many of them, but I might say sorry for getting so personal:
I see a frightening amount of myself in Draco. He was my favorite character (dare I say, of any franchise) for many years. I relate to him more strongly than I do to many real people. Iāve been told I come off as kind, and I like to think I genuinely am, but itās taken me a long journey of conscious self-improvement to get to that point. I can be arrogant, judgemental, selfish, snobby, somewhat elitist, self-centered, proud, and harsh (sound familiar?). These are deep faults that Iāve worked hard on, and now they are my minor shortcomings rather than my character traits. Draco embodies all of this for me. He was a reflection of myself when I was younger, and as I grew, so did he. I love him for all his originally shameless flaws, and then for his redemption. It doesnāt hurt that heās drop-dead gorgeous (spent most of my teens crushing on him).
Draco is only one half of this coin, but heās certainly what drew me to the ship. That let me rediscover Harry. Harry is damaged, and why shouldnāt he be? Fic doesnāt avoid that. He has nightmares and panic attacks and often faces a selection of anxiety/depression/PTSD-related struggles. His relationship with Draco (and vice versa) is not about overcoming these ābarriersā in the face of romance (unhealthy) or about his partner miraculously āfixingā him (unhealthier). Itās about being able to continue living his life past the causes of his trauma, and about him learning to rely on someone who doesnāt and shouldnāt carry all his burdens but who can offer him support and loveā something we all need.Ā
In my instinctive interpretation of Draco and Harryās relationship, Iāve always believed Harry would also have the patience to deal with Dracoās dramatics (something I was personally insecure about for years), and would show him the sort of attention Draco undeniably craves. Harry has a keen understanding of what it feels like to be unloved, and it translates into his deliberate displays of affection with Draco and his tolerance for Dracoās numerous oddities. Draco, on the other hand, is the only person of the same age (apart from Ron and Hermione) who experienced a similar sort of trauma to Harryās during the War. They were both controlled in their own way, both unable to diverge from a path others had set out for them. This once again makes it easier for them to support and understand one another. I love the idea of their opposing yet mirrored past bringing them together.Ā
But one of the most important reasons I love the ship is its original premiseā rivals to lovers. Thereās a clear distinction here. Draco did not bully Harry. Draco bullied Hermione (viciously, Iāll add), but he and Harry fought. No one falls in love with their bully, but Iāll tell you first hand that there is some major UST between rivals. Honestly. The punch-them-or-kiss-them trope was not born from nothing. These clichĆ©s start for a reason.
Enough philosophical rambling. I love them because theyāre stupid, and adorable, and a ridiculously lovely embodiment of the phrase opposites attract. I love them because they often get to live out my ideal happily every after. There are wonderfully deep and complex reasons that I love their relationship, and then there are deliciously shallow reasonsā like the fact that Auror Potter is a big Yes Pleaseā¢. Or the fact that Draco is a drama queen, and that tags like Harry Potter Thinks Draco Malfoy is Up to Something exist on Ao3.Ā
Either way, thanks for the gloriously self-indulgent ask, honey. Toodaloo.