#unsolicited asks

Stop.

I am barely surviving myself. I legit CAN NOT AFFORD TO SEND MONEY TO PEOPLE.

I don't care who you are or what you need money for. Sending things to my inbox asking will get your post deleted and ignored.

And now, it will get you blocked. I have started blocking blogs doing this, because deleting and ignoring 5 copy pasted asks begging for money from the same account didn't get the point across.

I know it's mostly people trying to escape a genocide happening, but I automatically assume it's a scam if it shows up in my ask box written like it's generated by Chat GPT. I know some of these may be legit and some of those are from people who actually need money. But harassing random people on the internet trying to get donations is not how you do it.

Stop. I am going to start blocking every account that comes into my inbox begging for donations since simply ignoring it isn't getting my point across.

And if this community needs someone not afraid of a little assault charge to make sure cons stay protected spaces, well...that can be my job. Being a shrimp has its perks in terms of looking like the innocent one >:)

Whoever you are, I am unsure again why you are singling me out as someone who has not been posting much as of late but thanks? Since the decline of Tumblr, and FetLife, in favor of Discord (and probably somewhere else) it's a lot harder to skim peoples' scene logs and generally good ideas. More than anything else, I think that's what built the framework of a really good online community just a few years before the pandemic.

Everybody out there is doing their best and there's a very high bar for a lot of people. Nobody's going to be perfect and ConCom people can get burned out or turned over very regularly. If you had a team of people whose job it was to run these things from outside those who may play there you might get a completely different experience, but probably one that's more of a business. Which has its own set of problems. People running these things are doing their best and it's a lot of unpaid work so people can meet up and have - hopefully - a totally fantastic time.

I hope everybody brings their "A" game and sets a good example to everything they do. Which is, of course, making sure the other people involved also want the same thing they do. Ultimately these are really big private parties with an admission fee, and nobody has accused me of throwing a good party.

As much as I think we all care about the people involved, I doubt any of us want to do a part-time job planning an event for a minimal stipend like maybe a hotel room or a car rental reimbursement.  It’s a lot to ask of anybody, and why I may not need to ever consider being involved.  Also, nobody asks, which makes it very easy to not be involved.