#understanding them

AND also just it’s so easy to get blinded by the idea of getting to see or even meet a famous person because it’d be super exciting and they’re awesome to you etc, but you don’t really think of the whole “hey wait this might actually be a bit creepy”. It reallly does take a post like that to snap you back into reality. Like I admit I waited 4 hours with a small group of people infront of a hotel at the possibility of seeing one of the Rolling Stones, and not once did I think it was weird ghfuhg-

-we were all pretty rational though. But I guess it doesn’t really make it more right?

I hear ya. I was a twentysomething when I went to Nashville to a band-condoned and scheduled meet and greet, and charity race. For my bff and me, it was a drive clear across country, and we counted it as a vacation, seeing and doing things along the way, so not exactly creepy. However, while we were there, we let this woman (we thought was a friend-our bad) who was twice our age, and who worked for the guys we were there to see/meet convince us to take her to “her friend’s house”.

Come to find out, he was a musician/songwriter friend of the guys we were there to meet/see, and she’d met this guy through them a few times (aka not friends). She knew where he lived from sending them something they needed for their performance (they stayed with this “friend” when they were in Nashville), and nobody realized she wasn’t supposed to be showing up at this house.

She freaked out when she saw the light on in the house, made us duck, and hurry out of this neighborhood in terror, hoping none of us were seen. Not only that, she’d conned us into doing this in our car (not a rental).

It was wrong of us to be influenced, but more so for her to put us in the position in the first place. It was so easy to just take her at her word, and so exciting to think she was going to introduce us to somebody legitimately.

Luckily the meet and greet was real, band-sanctioned, and went off without a hitch.

It was a few months of worry and frustration before I sent the guys involved an email saying “she’s giving out your location when you stay in Nashville”.

Step one: Spend time and make friends with women, talk to them about their interests, every so oftern throw in something new to judge their reaction. Make sure to do this with many different groups, as anyone who has watched mean girls knows, there are many different types.

Step two: Begin to spend longer time periods around women. Both in the work place and at home. When they are relaxed and stressed. What they do in these situations. Study their habbits and sometimes question their thinking behind such actions. Be careful doing this, as any man knows that a pissed off girl is the equal of a fully loaded AK-47.

Step three: In your own situations, think how a woman might see it, remember their reactions to these. If it won't make you look too strange, attempt to replicate what they do to. Again, be careful. If their stress reliver is a long soak in a bath full of scented oils with music and candles, make sure to lock the door. Remember Chandler in friends? Don't do everything like a girl, but try to look through their view points.

 Step four: Using what you have learned, observe women in town. No don't be a pervert or a stalker, but watch what they get up to. Try to second guess them, see if you can figure out what they're thinking. Spend time with your female friends, offer to do things they may be interested in and judge your success rate. Sometimes disagree and suggest a different option that may clash with the norm. Some will be exited by the new idea, others may wish to stick to comfort zone.