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A Few Things To Think About ( #730 ) Chill Out And Get A Smile On Your Mug 1.) I have found that I prefer a smile on a woman’s face more when she is not wearing any makeup, or in reality when she is not wearing anything else either. 2.) High I.Q. people talk to themselves more than what us dummies do. The reason: us dummies will never run out of other dummies to talk to but there are very few…

Relationships are hard. They take work and a constant dedication to be the most fruitful and fulfilling. They also can be hard because of the learning curve. You have to learn how to be synergistic with another person. Sometimes its easier than others, some relationships work because they both are the same personality, other times it’s the old axiom “opposites attract,” it just depends on the people and circumstances, and it’s just a matter of working on that synergy that already exists and building from it. Things like communication become vitally important in this process and a lot of couples have stumbled as a result.

 Just because something is hard, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. Arguably, you should, as the pay off will be much more rewarding. That goes with everything in life. The more work you put into something, the better the outcome. For instance, take my boyfriend. He is a guitarist. If he puts in one hour a day, he can come up with something semi-presentable. You can at least hear the notes, maybe just not the right timing. But if he spends two hours a day, the music starts to become more refined. The more he practices, the better the song sounds. This is by no accident. He’s building muscle memory and a natural smoothness as he practices more. Things start becoming second nature. He’s no longer thinking about every single note being plucked out, he’s just doing it. This allows him to put more of his attention somewhere else, and the cycle continues. Constantly he’s being able to handle more. The same can be said for a relationship. You want to find yourself doing things by second nature and being able to divert your attention elsewhere.

 Love is not hard. In fact, I think it is very easy to love someone (as it should be). It goes into that whole thing about love conquers all. It is kind of true because it is so easy to throw yourself into love. A relationship is birthed out of love, but it ends up becoming a sort of protector of the love it was birthed from. That is to say that the relationship protects your love with another individual, as it is so easy to fall into. They work together. So, the more you put into the relationship, the stronger and safer the love is. Whereas it is not necessarily true the other way around. Just because you love someone a lot, doesn’t ensure that your relationship will be strong, or serve its purpose.

 Being in a relationship can be an amazing experience, but you must make sure that you are wiling to put in the work it takes. If you’re not ready to do so, that is not necessarily a bad thing, it just means that you should not get into a relationship, as it would not be fair to that other person. At the same, don’t conflate confusion or lack of understanding with apathy. There are plenty people, including my boyfriend, who want to put in the work, but don’t necessarily know hot to, or stumbles through it. These types of relationships just require a higher level of communication and maintenance until such time that you are on par with each other.

If you were a drug I’d be an addict.  But you’re better than that.  You give me a high no where near compared to any pill, powder, or synthetic creation. 

Falling into your arms is like coming home after being lost and alone for years.  You are home.  You’re my home. 

You’re so gentle.  Your touch, your voice, your heart.  It’s like the ray of the first spring sunshine, warming the earth and melting away the cold.

You know me better than I know myself.  You explain how I feel more perfectly than my own mind can.  You. Get. Me...like no one ever has or will.