Haya is not just feeling shy in front of someone but it consists of many other aspects which can be achieved step wise by assessing ourselves in the following points-
1. Haya in the way we dress
Dress is perhaps the most widely thought of in terms of modesty. Dressing up in the right way as commanded by Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala plays a major role in boosting our imaan as well as bringing us closer to Allah. There are many instances in which people feel close to Allah by just covering themselves up rightly. But we also need to be wary of avoiding boastfulness or vanity about the way we dress.
2. Haya in what we watch/read
We should be wary of what we watch on the television or read. Television is the number one source of immodesty followed by books. You can find n number of shows which deal with immodest topics and same goes for books. So, look at the type of shows you’re watching and the kind of books you’re reading. Are they immodest? Are they causing you to lose your sense of shamefulness?
3. Haya in what we say
The way we speak is also a part of Haya. The words we use and our tone matters a lot. The present trend is to use immodest words when expressing either happiness or grief which is fast picking up and also being seen in the Muslim community. Do you use such words? Don’t forget that every word you speak out is going to testify for/against you on the Day of Judgement!
4. Haya in how we treat others
Treat others with respect and kindness is what is taught to us since childhood. But do we really follow that? Treat others like you would want to be treated by others is perhaps the best policy ever which one can follow to maintain this aspect of Haya.
5. Haya in the friends we choose
Yes, your friends circle does matter a lot! A person is more likely to follow what his friends believe and do. Be careful when it comes to maintaining close friendships with people. Ask yourself if this is the type of person you want to be or want to be seen with?
6. Haya in the places we go
As much as it matters how we speak, dress, behave; it also matters that which places we visit. Are the places we visit reminders of all the forbidden or haraam things? Or are you frequenting the right kind of places? Reflect.
7. Haya in what we do
Haya in what we do amongst people is as important as Haya in front of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala, when we’re alone. Our actions when in public and in private should reflect piety and obedience to Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.
Another hadith which mentions Hayais :
Narrated ‘Abdullah bin ‘Umar: The Prophet passed by a man who was admonishing his brother regarding Haya and was saying, “You are very shy, and I am afraid that might harm you.” On that, Allah’s Apostle said, “Leave him, for Haya is (a part) of Faith.
(SahihBukhariBook #73, Hadith #139)
Haya brings only good. It can either make or break one’s eeman. It will guide one towards peace of mind. Here is praying that the Muslim ummah all over the world finds it easy to be modest! Ameen!”
Authored by Farheen Naaz ♦ To Read more about the Author CLICK HERE
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