#twosides

\\\Happy Friday Lovely People of Tumblr!!\\\

Tonight self-acceptance came across my mind. I think too many of us including myself spend more time trying to impress others rather then accepting ourselves just as we are. Why is it that who we are or the way we look isn’t good enough? 

Sometimes it’s not good enough for a stranger, family, friends or even yourself. Confidence is hard to come by. It has pushed the buttons of perfection because someone told us there is only one version of what pretty looks like vs. ugly. Or dorky vs. cool. fat vs. skinny. Which is just crazy, cause who has the right, right?

{{Two sides to one person}} So with this we then have a version of us we portray to the world; the version we think everyone will accept and then the other side that only us and very few people we know see because that’s the real you. The real you if not meeting these invisible guidelines of society then isn’t allowed so in a way your hiding from the world.  Mental Health is one area where I did hide. I pretended to be happy for other people’s sake and then would break down and cry when I was out of sight. Along with it I also hide things like my sexuality(bi), my weight(overweight), my appearance(face-acne,hair-wrong, self-harm scars-frowned upon), my mental health(bipolar, depression, self-harm), etc. I went through periods of not being able to look in the mirror or I also would be so obsessed I spent hours in the mirror just picking myself apart.

None of this is healthy. I want this post to be a reminder if anything that you should love yourself for who you are and FLAUNT it!!! If someone tells you your ugly, tell them no i’m not your ugly for saying that. You are beautiful! If someone says your dumb cause you don’t know something - no your not your learning.  You are human. You deserve to rest easy and be yourself. Self-accept, that alone makes you strong and better then someone who wants to put you down.  If you are struggling with appearance, self-accepting, allowing yourself to just be human; message me cause this is a no judgement zone ❤