note: i love trans headcanons as a trans person myself! please do not interact with this post if you think transmasc folks shouldn't be comfortable with their anatomy. this is a toxic way of thinking. AFAB transmasc people can be okay with their 🐱 or 🍒 and still be valid and trans! (rest is under the cut!)

I would say that not every agender person is able to/chooses to remove themself entirely from the idea of a gender binary. I think most people are aware of some form of gender binary, whether they place themself on it is a different story. 

(Image ID: In grey across the top reads “The Gender Spectrum” underneath is a circle with a gradient of pink on the left side, purple on top, blue on the right side, and white on the bottom. Above the circle reads “NONBINARY, to the right reads “MASCULINE” to the left reads “FEMININE” and underneath reads “AGENDER”. In the bottom right corner says “tyef” and underneath “transyouthequality.org”. End ID)

So if you still consider yourself a part of the gender binary, that’s okay. It doesn’t make you any less agender. Trying to distance yourself from this is difficult, especially when you’re learning more about it in school.

The last part of your ask seems complicated. (”how can i, someone who battles female socialization constantly, truly b agender?”) Do you identify as agender? If you answered yes, you’re truly agender! If you answered maybe or partially, that doesn’t mean you aren’t. You could be truly agender sometimes or truly agender along with something else.

Basically, there isn’t one way to be truly agender. All you have to do is be you.

Here are some blogs on Tumblr that might lead you to more resources

@a-gender (agender positivity/resources)

@agenderchat (connecting with community)

@agenderhelp (genderqueer-focused)

@agenderootd (agender clothing/selfie)

@hellyeahagender (agender ask-based)

a-i

f-fucked

a-ur

Solution: donate uterus when I move out

Problem: you have to be 30. 

Solution: stab myself in the uterus. Get uterus taken out for medical reasons.