Honestly it's lowkey insane how much attention shitty fathers get and how little attention the arguably equally shitty mothers who help prop up their harm and gaslight their kids into thinking this is somehow their own fault get in comparison.

Like, to give a completely random example that in no way reflects the very recent events in my own household, some moms can turn "Dad deliberately inquired why I was not speaking with any tonal inflections and when I explained to him that (being that I am autistic) i was tired and they took too much effort for me to really bother maintaining at the moment given that I was at home and he could understand me perfectly find he replied 'That's fucking retarded', which, given that he's never even used that word in fifteen feet of me before, I'm like 99% sure he only even considered an option to say because said mom and I have had an (VERY recent) extended disagreement about whether or not it's okay for ANYONE in the household to use said term considering that a) last I checked--aka a whole ten years ago--that word was no longer used as a medical term, b) IT'S A FUCKING SLUR, and c) even if you don't consider it a slur it makes me greatly uncomfortable and is honestly completely inaccurate in describing my conditions or general life experiences so if you could do like the easiest thing ever and not use a word you already weren't fucking using that'd be great" to "Your anger and distress over the situation is actually a reflection of your own insecurities regarding your own diagnosis--if you just kept putting in more self-work like I keep telling you to this you wouldn't care at all if anyone said such things to you, because a random person or even a friend calling you a slur is totally comparable to YOUR OWN FATHER saying the same thing :) and also I'm going to spend way more time harping on this than acknowledging that what said dad did is indeed fucked up, assisting you in actually dealing with the situation, or even getting remotely close to admitting my own role in setting up the situation :) because, again, people can totally never be hurt by people they care about saying mean things they both know aren't true and feelings have nothing to do with context whatsoever so this is all completely on you :)"

One thing that people haven't noticed yet is that Yuki literally saw firsthand his colleague getting dropped for saying the n-word. I don't think Yuki is that stupid to put his career at risk by doing the same thing. But again, even with Juri's situation, it was also the internet that noticed and called him out. He used the word so casually in front of the camera that I don't think other drivers, teams, etc., ever said it was wrong to use such a word.

Yuki probably learned it from other people, I doubt that he looked up the word himself. His fault was not trying to understand its meaning (if what he said is true) and using it carelessly. Though it makes me question how messed up the environment he lives in is. How does he come into a new place with no knowledge of the language, doesn't know the meaning of 'refill' or what the periodic table is, yet is so fluent in swears and slurs? How badly were these words thrown around that he thought it was normal to use them in daily conversation?

I wish he had never said it I wish he knew better, but what's done is done. He apologized, and while I'm not in a position to accept or reject his apology, I think he's genuine about it. Now that it already happened, I only hope he can learn from this, educate himself more on this matter, and be more careful with his words and actions.

This doesn't include intrusive thoughts or informed decisions to discontinue life-sustaining care or have a DNR for a suffering and terminally ill child. Not what I'm talking about.

ada omg!!! you already know a couple of stuff so i’ll go for smth new that i’ve been thinking about. 

so, i was reading the language of thorns the other day, esp the too clever fox one and i kinda think nikolai is not going to die? instead, he’s going to be(come) a disabled character. (i was planning to write a one-shot sort of thing too... and i think it’s still writing itself, quite ghostly,,, but eh). 

so by the end of the story, it’s obvious just how injured koja is by the girl. “his [fur] never sat quite right again” and that “other animals teased him less for it”. it’s an assumption im willing to make.

personally, i think this will be an awesome route to take tbh. every single person is just an accident away from becoming disabled. to show that through nikolai, who btw is a man of power too can be used as a tool to address ableism i think. it will add more discussion to the books. 

in addition to all of that about the disability, (re: the teasing part from too-celever fox), im gonna go ahead ahead and take a guess that 1. he is kinda deemed unworthy of his position due to his disability, which will then lead to addressing it as an allegory to real life issues. nikolai is also the most adored character so in a way, it satisfies the part of a. accident away from disability part and b. how just because someone is disabled, it doesn’t mean they’re suddenly someone different in knowledge and skill. (im not disabled, so if i come off as insensitive or incorrect, i will correct myself. im very sorry if this is offensive).

2. ravka is sure to become a democracy by the end, and zoya will become the interim head of some sorts. why? because the darkling will fuck up again ,despite nikolai trying to make him be resourceful of some sorts to win the war and, as a result, nikolai’s secret will somehow become a hindrance to his position. 

also, if you look at it, it will also be a sure sought way to sense how zoya, a character of colour, will have to deal with stuff. it’s mostly going to be all about threats to diplomatic stuff, like dealings from west ravka and such. because, no matter what zoya wants to convince herself of grisha not being accepted by the countryfolk or the city, she is wrong. “welcome home commander,” is what the guard at the gates says. fuck dude she’s so oblivious wtf. it will play into the plot somehow methinks. 

kos was kinda disappointing because we couldn’t see much of the diplomacy that nikolai boasts of, the courtly matters and all of that so im hoping that row will bring more content on that front. 

also i just thought of this (all of that^^^ had been on my mind for a while) but im sure there will not be a full on war? like, not a legit battle. there will be skirmishes akin to a war scenario, but a complete battle like the last battle in r&r? it’s not going to be there... or so i am hoping, if the countries of grishaverse are going to take the route im assuming (yk, the cold war scenario. not a full blown war, but still tense stuff). 

the more i think about the synopsis, the more im thinking the “friend” zoya is refusing to bury is going to be lada. she is perhaps a grisha too, taken away by the shu after darkling drowns novokribrisk? im not sure, but lada does not survive the parem correction or smth. it’s still so unclear around the edges so more thought this needs. 

there are a few here and there I don't like, but my biggest issues are the ones surrounding Cullen and either his becoming tyranical or a 'crazy mass murderer'. because lol like PTSD/trauma survivors aren't stigmatized enough by this very concept in media as it is

yeah im sorry im not happy with how they handled selvig's mental violation with "lol crazy old man!" like

shut the fuck up

mental illness is not a joke and mentally ill people do not automatically become psychotic nudists. i have a host of mental illnesses and i'm pretty sure that's never made me want to strip naked so ???

the chucking of his meds bothered me because he needs those and the underlying "well I guess he doesn't now that someone acknowledges him because that's all mentally ill people need i guess???" like whatever the fuck they were going for there

no medications are so important i am a very different person off my medicine and you do not bin them 

also they're expensive

also what baffles me is they admit it's because of loki's influence messing with his brain and don't treat a severe mental violation that helped bring about a city-destroying event, even if you helped while brainwashed, like it was a big fucking deal that might severely mentally damage you

like haha he's so funny he's not wearing clothes

what the fuck is wrong with you movie

and it would've been easy to do a decent version of mentally ill selvig: have him holed up in the english countryside to relax and try to get back to things while coping with his trauma and that wouldve still necessitated darcy and the dude going to get him

but i dunno i guess it was funnier to make a joke of severe mental trauma