#treiphobia

“oh you should stop whining about invisibility because you have it so easy. i am going to demand that you be silent and invisible.”

“transmascs are the least oppressed part of the lgbt community and that’s why they need to stop playing oppression olympics.”

"trans men are priveledged for being seen as men"

so which is it. which is it? it literally cannot be both. Either you think trans men are priveledged for being seen as women, or you think they're priveledged for always passing. You have to pick one. You cannot just tell two lies at the same time and act like you know what you're talking about.

according to Julia Serano, trans men facing transphobia and being seen as women is a privilege, somehow. Even though her whole argument is that feminine people are more oppressed by virtue of being feminine.

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I had to overcome a lot of personal issues leading me to accepting myself. I silenced the part of me that was afraid of being a man, or even viewed as one, because the internet has instilled in so many of us that Being A Man = Evil, Awful, Violent and Monstrous. I learned to love and appreciate the non-binary, masculine part of me, to not be ashamed of pulling away from womanhood and feminity in a big way.

Now it seems like my whole community is setting itself on fire, and being ravaged by people who aren't part of the community. And it's fucking terrifying. It's sickening. It's heartbreaking.

It makes me scared to exist. To talk about my identity, my struggles, my hopes and more. It makes me angry to see people say with such confidence in their heart, chest and soul that people like me do not have a unique type of oppression "because we're [ALL] men*", and then actively try to shame, ostracize, harass, abuse, gaslight, and manipulate us into silence and compliance. Why? Because we abandoned womanhood. Because we betrayed women as a whole by daring to dirty our feminine physique with manhood and masculinity. Because we ""murdered"" a daughter that never even truly existed; accept as a way to keep the individual safe and in the closet. Because we're transmasc and trans men.

All the work I made into building up my confidence, in saying goodbye to my home of womanhood which had housed me for years, finally breaking those shackles and making an identity for myself away from it all.

It feels like it was all for nothing. It feels like the moment I stepped away from womanhood, I gave away a privilege I did not even know I had. The privilege of victimhood, of the crimes and abuse dealt to me being taken seriously and earnestly. Because men can't be hurt. We can't be abused, or discriminated, or neglected, or experience anything negative.

All men are and ever will be are animals; monsters seeking to manipulate and twist the minds of our poor innocent daughters until they mutilate their own bodies for a sense of euphoria. That is how the world views me and my community as. Hyenas who trail behind the feet of precious cis women, waiting for a time to strike and bring up the wonders we feel of being trans.

By stepping away from womanhood, I unknowingly stepped into a role where I would always be anticipated as being the monster. That everytime I spoke, people would only hear teeth-gnashing and gutteral growls. Anytime I would move, they'd expect it to be a strike against them.

No longer could I play the damsel in distress; I was now the large beast, with claws and teeth and gnatted, filthy fur which held her captive. And for some people, they view me as the beast imprisoning my inner woman. So they wish to kill that beast in order to set her free.

But how am I meant to explain how I am that woman as much as I am the beast?

How is a beast meant to be seen in a kinder light, when the village always pulls out their pitchforks and torches at the sight of them? How are they meant to be seen in a better light, when the world projects their fear and anger onto that beast; only to scream in fear when the beast reflects it right back?

I put in so much work for myself. I was so happy and excited to accept this part of myself. Deep down, I knew that I would lose the respect and trust of many around me. But I never expected my new home to already be up in smoke and flames not long after I arrived.

I never expected the fear and hopelessness of my identity to have arrived so soon. I never thought the shame of masculinity would come back like a baseball being swung into me. I never anticipated this much despise for my identity - for people like me. I never wanted this to be the reality I live in.

i was scrolling through pinterest, looking at some queer memes (as you do) and i stumbled upon a post that seemed…a little bit bæddel-y. that’s not super uncommon, but what struck me about this post was that the first part of it could have been said by a terf. had it not had a reply underneath talking about trans women in a positive light.

She says that brains are inherently gendered as either male or female, that the white western gender binary wouldn't exist if it weren't the real One True Natural System™, that nonbinary and multigender people are just actually binary trans but in denial about it so they can feel superior to trans women.

She says that trans men get nothing but benefits from transitioning, and never ever ever have trouble passing, and meanwhile trans women get nothing but disadvantages.

She says that butch women????? are privileged????????????? over traditionally feminine ones??????....like holy shit????? She genuinely honestly fucking believes that gendernonconforming women are treated better by our society than ones who wear makeup and dresses!!!!

This is the book you're all taking as gospel???? really?????

this is the "years of research" you're pointing at as a holy fucking scripture????????????

One white woman claiming that her personal experience is the way the world is, while she actively erases and speaks over other trans people and pretends like she knows what they go through better than they do?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

I read the first half of that book before I had to stop because the bigotry was just too fucking infuriating, and I don't think she made a single argument or statement that she didn't then immediately contradict without a single shred of irony.

Like I get that the book is literally just a collection of essays she wrote at different times, all shoved together and sold, but it feels like she didn't even read through the finished product to make sure everything lined up. She contradicts almost everything she says.

Like. She literally explains why treating being trans like a mental disorder is bad (but only if you're a trans woman, trans men face no problems from this system according to her). But then says it should continue being treated like a mental disorder???