I think that a lot of women on this "tradwife" tag on this site fundamentally misunderstand WHY people say tradwife/tradcon is inherently problematic.
I see a lot of them saying like "being a tradcon doesnt mean you're racist/sexist/homophobic!" And "I'm a tradwife and I'm pro-choice and support women who choose to work" and the bewildering "I'm a lesbian tradwife, actually."
Tradwife is not synonymous with housewife. If you want to be a stay at home mom to a working husband, raising kids, cool, /I wish I could do that as well/. But the Traditionally Conservative community is built on, shocker, traditionally conservative values. Often christian values. Values from the time of "tradition", somewhere around 50-80 years ago, when women, queer people, and people of color had much fewer rights and were discriminated against much more than today. Traditionally conservative values of the home wife era often were built on the ideas that women were the incapable, inferior sex and only exist to fuck and birth sons. You cannot be pro choice/lgbt/equality if you are a tradcon because those are the fundamental opposite of traditional conservative values.
You're not a tradcon, you're just a housewife.
