What 2019 taught me
Feeling dissatisfied, sad, low and other negative emotions is very normal. Most times you wonât even know why youâre suddenly feeling this way when just a while ago you were having pretty much a good day. Itâs okay to feel such feelings and itâs okay to not know why. The important thing to remember is to not have feelings about your feelings. Why am I feeling sad! Iâm such a loser! NO. Feel what you want. But please, donât have feelings about your feelings.Â
Itâs good to stop and reflect on your life, on what youâre doing and is it what you want going ahead. I think thatâs important. But being introspective about every action and thought, of every day and of every interaction with a person is the way to make yourself a. Go crazy and b. Lead a life of inaction. So donât. Donât take everything so seriously. Donât take yourself seriously. I donât mean this in a âdo whatever. fuck life. YOLO. letâs be a narcissistic assholeâ sort of a way. But in a letâs be more in the moment, let a little loose and let things happen. And donât put emotions into every tiny thing.
When shitty people behave shitty, mean people pass mean comments, friends who are always late are late...why do you get so worked up and frustrated? They are just being consistent with their personality.
Youâre young so stop feeling burdened and like you have to settle. Whether it comes to people, work or who you are. Sure, maybe you will only live another 30 years. But even thatâs really long to live a life that doesnât satisfy you, right? I know sometimes quitting a job that sucks the life out of you is not a practical choice, but what if it is? Right now your expenses are not even 10% of what they will be when youâre 25 and out of your parentsâ home. So walk out now so that you donât later find yourself in a place you donât like but still have to continue staying there because #responsibilities.
If the guy youâre on a date with says stupid things, you donât have to throw water on his face and walk out but you sure as hell donât have to go back and reply to his texts. She may be your only friend but if you donât have fun with her then stop making plans with her. Itâs only when you say no to things and people that donât make you feel like âyes, I can be myselfâ and âyes, this is exactly what I want, I feel so gratefulâ, that you will have the time, energy or perspective to find the things and people that actually make you feel that way.
The sky. Oh my god, the sky. It's the most brilliant thing that we mortals are blessed with. It's constant in its presence but never consistent in its form. It's art and it never once seeks our validation. It's beyond our reach but above us in a guiding sort of a way. And I don't say this to mean the north star or whatever. I mean, every time you felt dissatisfied with life - others and yourself - you looked up, no matter the time, and you felt a sense of calm and wonder.
This phase after graduation is so liberating and confusing. Itâs like you spend so much of your life with everyone telling you what to do and then you forget that beyond an age and after a point those are only suggestions, even if aggressive, and that itâs you. Itâs you who makes the call. Because itâs you who has to bear the consequences. And that everyone is living their own life. And no, you donât know how to do this. Iâll tell you a secretâŠthey donât either. And you know why thatâs okay? Because this is only your first life. How are you expected to know everything? But at least you know this â itâs your life.
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