#thoughts anon

As for my thoughts, I’ve read a lot of what’s been posted and honestly I’m still unsure what their relationship dynamic even was. Some of it reads like a casual but exclusive situation, while other parts sound much more serious; meeting family members, exchanging contact information, all of that.

If it was casual but closed, then parts of it do remind me of what’s been said in past fandom situations and it makes me think, “Matt… after everything the band has gone through, why even risk this kind of mess?” But people do dumb things when they’re lonely, bored, emotionally messy, or just not thinking clearly.

That said, I do think bringing unrelated rumors and unverified claims into the situation hurts her credibility. I understand she’s hurt and emotional right now, and heartbreak can absolutely make people spiral, but once you start repeating things that can’t be substantiated or dragging uninvolved people into it, the focus shifts away from your actual experience. And unfortunately, the internet never forgets. Deleting a story doesn’t erase screenshots. And please people, do not send in stuff to her just to troll. You're an asshole if you do that.

I am glad she mentioned getting tested though. Health should always come first, physically and mentally. And if she’s genuinely going through trauma from any of this, I sincerely hope she seeks support from a mental health professional too.

As for the more serious allegations being discussed online, those are not things to throw around lightly. If someone believes they experienced abuse or assault, they should contact the proper authorities and seek professional support. RAINN is a genuinely valuable resource for survivors and anyone needing guidance.

Regarding Matt making things private, I wasn’t surprised. From a legal and professional standpoint, that’s probably the smartest thing to do. I don’t expect him, the band, management, or the label to publicly address any of this unless something escalates significantly. If anything, they’ll probably become even more private moving forward.

At the end of the day, I’m still standing by what I’ve said from the start: take everything with a massive grain of salt. Emotions are high, people are reacting in real time, and fandoms have a habit of turning speculation into “fact” overnight.

If this situation makes someone no longer want to support the band, that’s their choice. If others still want to support them, that’s their choice too. There are bigger things in life than letting internet drama consume you.

Personally? I think everyone needs to log off for a bit, drink some water, touch grass, and remember that none of us actually know these people beyond what’s presented publicly.

not a fan of huge groups anon (new)

Hi! Just wanted to say that I love your microfics; i look forward to reading it every time I see you've posted one. But I do have a question for you. So, I have been in homeschool for the last two years and haven't had any friendships or anyone to talk to, as all of my old friends ghosted me after I left, but one just reached out asking if I wanted to come over with her new friends (who i dont know), and i dont know if I should accept or not. I have social anxiety, so its pretty nerve wrackinh just thinking about it, especially since im not a huge fan of groups anyway, and I dont really know what to do. I know your asks (is thst what they're called?) aren't usually like this, but I feel like i need a second opinion

Hi!

I can actually hugely relate to this- I did online school for a little while because of anxiety and I struggled with friendships because of it.

Honestly, I would try it IF you have an out. Meaning like…if you have a way to escape where you’re not trapped there the whole time, then I think you should go. If you can drive, or someone can easily pick you up or bring you home, and help you make an excuse, then you have a way of not feeling anchored there and at someone’s mercy. When I’m able to set that up for myself it helps my social anxiety so much because I’M in control.

If you can do that, then yeah, I think you should try it. Only because I do regret not being very social during the years I was in online school, and the friendships I missed out on, so that’s the advice I would give myself. But also if you’re literally having panic attacks, you know you the best, and that’s important, too <3 pay attention to your needs and your emotions. It’s okay to put yourself first!

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6 anon

Hi <3

So first of all, omg, I am SO sorry about 4th grade…that’s absolutely awful and I’m sick reading about it.

As far as your current teacher, yeah what he said was NOT okay. I think it can be so hard because like…how do you tell the difference between a man who just doesn’t know boundaries and that he’s being a creep and a man who’s showing red flags? The answer is, you can’t, and that’s NOT something you should be worrying about right now, especially at school. 

I think you need to tell someone about this comment. Because either this person is absolutely awful and needs to be stopped or this person does not know boundaries…and needs to be stopped. Either way, he made you uncomfortable which is NOT okay. My suggestion would be to tell a guidance counselor. I forget, do you have good guidance counselors? Someone who would take you seriously if you told them what was said and that it made you uncomfortable?

Again, I’m sorry this happened, it’s unacceptable and I hope you know it’s not your fault.

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actually pass anon (new)

OH MY GOD OH MY GOD I ACTUALLY PASS WTF

The other day a group of like 13-14 year olds from school thought I was a guy and I was like woah, must just be a good day and then today I was out and I wasn’t even trying to look super masc I mean i wore a pretty neutral outfit and a bit of eyeliner and like someone with the mlm flag checked me out and actually freaking hit on me >_<

Hi! Congrats, that's an awesome feeling! Even better, it sounds like you feel comfortable in your body and gender, which is most important <3

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not so freshman anon

hey cas! it's not so freshman anon

in 10 years it really depends :/ if i was still friends with her in 10 years/if we fell out it wasn't because of the confession then I'd be glad to do it but ngl id regret it if our friendship ended bc of this

but also uhm my feelings keep coming and going idk what's going on it's like I like her and then i think i don't but then I think I do again

Hi <3

Yeah, I understand, it's not a simple decision. and it's also like...it's easy for me to be like "well if the friendship ends because of it, then fuck her, that's not okay" but also it's not that easy. I know it's hard and thinking through it is stressful <3 I'm here for you though!

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