#thoughtfulthoughts

alright, ima need you to hear me out before making a single judgement. there are a lot of preconceived notions that people have about what i'm about to talk about, and what i have to say might surprise you, so read all i have to say before making judgements please.

as i've been laying in bed to sleep tonight, trying to go to bed early before my 7:30am final tomorrow morning to end my first semester in college (why so early? sos), i've been thinking about my sorority sisters and how much i'm going to miss them when i'm away from school for the next month. now, before you judge the fact that i'm in a sorority, i was thinking to myself, what is it that makes them my sisters? why don't i call them my 170 person best friend circle? because that wouldn't be true. they're not all my best friends. in fact, there are several of them that i've never even talked to before. but yet, they're still my sisters. why is that? a lot of people who are anti-greeklife say that being in a sorority is just buying your friends. and i'm here to tell you right now, that just because people in sororities and fraternities may seem like evil beasts to some of you, i'm telling you that we're not. before college, or even in college, you have to work to make friends. how do you meet these people, you ask? you go to school. you join clubs. you hang out in specific places where you know that people with similar interests to you hang out too. and so now i ask, do you not pay for school? are there not fees to be in a club? is there no admission charge to these hang out spots? if you answered yes to any of these questions, then i could say you're paying for your friends too. being in a sorority is so much more than money. yes, there are fees that you must pay to be a part of it, but just about any club is the same. and do i even mention what it takes to get into a sorority or fraternity? going through recruitment may seem very judgmental and shallow, but what really happens is a group of people, look for more people to add to their group, because they have compatible personalities. while all of my sisters are different, we all have core values that are similar, and that's what binds us together. when sororities cut people from recruitment, it's not because they think someone isn't good enough. it's because they don't fit in with that particular group. does that mean that that person doesn't fit in perfectly with a different group? not at all. different people fit into different groups, and that's all there is to it. i'm a firm believer that ALL people are equal, but that doesn't mean we're not different. just because you are different than me doesn't mean that you aren't as good as me, or that i'm not as good as you. we're just different. but what my point that i'm trying to make here is, a sorority chooses its newest members before anyone pays any money. they invite people into their circle of friendship because they are similar people. for the same reason that anyone becomes friends with anyone, anywhere in the world.