#this literally

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1. Image of Blorbo in a dress, he is drawn as he appears in source material, and is standing alone. He is neutral or happy.

NOT FETISHIZATION! this is a healthy exploration of pushing the boundaries of gender roles. there is no overly feminized part of the drawing, and nothing to even suggest that Blorbo is mlm.

2. Image of Blorbo in a dress. Skrunkly is standing next to Blorbo, also in a dress. They both appear content, and are not engaged romantically or sexually.

NOT FETISHIZATION! again, no contrast between one overly feminized man and one overly masculine man, and they are not romantically or sexually involved.

3. Image of Blorbo in a dress. He is kissing Skrunkly, who is not in a dress. Both appear as they are depicted in source material, and they appear to be equally in control of the situation. Both are comfortable.

NOT FETISHIZATION! these are two men romantically or sexually involved, but there is no exaggerated power dynamic, and they are not performing caricatures of masculinity and femininity.

4. Image of Blorbo in a dress. He appears markedly more skinny/submissive/breedable than he does in source material. He stands alone.

ALMOST FETISHIZATION! you are beginning to use Blorbo as your prop instead of as a character. if you are depicting a man as much more feminine/submissive than he usually is, especially in a sexual way, you are starting to fetishize him.

5. Image of Blorbo and Skrunkly kissing. Blorbo is in a dress, and appears much more feminine/submissive than he usually does. Skrunkly either looks true to source material or overly masculine/dominant. Blorbo may or may not appear uncomfortable.

FETISHIZATION! you've reached official fetishization of mlm relationships. notice how while Blorbo has been in a dress the entire time, the power dynamics and how he is presented relative to source material has changed. you are no longer viewing these characters as individuals, but as caricatures of an mlm relationship. this can also quickly swerve into dubious consent, so be aware of that, as well.

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I have been meaning to rant about the focus BNHA puts on families and how they’re so important to the start of a person’s life and development. It’s the way that BNHA puts such a heavy emphasis on family, and the impact it has on you, and how everything could easily go seriously, seriously wrong if your family dynamic is not developed properly or handled with care.

One of the recurring focuses in BNHA is family, and it’s mostly explored through the LOV trio than anyone else. It shows how some broken families can be mended, repaired, and reunited, and how others simply cannot. Both of these are explored through Shigaraki, Touya, and Toga.

Shigaraki reflecting on his family before the war shows us that he never did let go of the attachment he had to them. Not that he would, since they are his family. But he was never able to grieve in any normal way whatsoever:

And as a result, there are a lot of unaddressed feelings that he hasn’t been able to move on from. Which is shown to us when he manifests them in his conscience in the AFO void/dreamscape thing. And through this attempt to give himself closure by reliving the final moments he had with his family, he decides that enough is enough, that he doesn’t want to be rejected for who he is anymore:

This shows that, hey, maybe he’s done dwelling on these feelings? Now he can move forward with his plan of destruction without anything holding him back. Except, it turns out that he isn’t done dwelling:

Even 16 years after they’re long dead, his family is still grabbing him all over his body, pulling him back, keeping him from moving on. Never having gotten that acceptance he needed in his home has resulted in him practically begging for it from the current world they’re in. Even after he’s seemingly rejected the idea of ever being accepted, he’s still there, asking for this acceptance:

So now we’re at a point where, only when he’s given what his family wasn’t able to give him (understanding and acceptance), will he be able to break that hold AFO has on him and move forward to his salvation. Saving Shigaraki isn’t just about breaking the possession, and it’s not about making him forget his family. It’s about making him realize that his dream of destroying everything is not going to bring him any relief, and that there is hope for him to feel good again if he’s given what he needs, given what he never got when he was little Tenko.

Now Touya. Touya reflecting on his family after the war shows us the way he grew up, and the emotional harm inflicted on him before he “died”. But the more telling parts of Touya’s reflection are when he’s brought to tears (of blood) thinking about his family living on without him, for the second time:

But those chapters are split between his and his parents’ POV. We know that Touya loved his family, pretty much up until he left. And, we know that he still does love all of them except Endeavor. For whom Touya’s love grew into a deep hatred and pain that Touya doesn’t want to continue living with.

Touya loves his family, his family that is very much alive. And his family loves him too. But Touya rejected the idea of returning to them 10 years ago, which only resulted in the state that he is in now: burns spreading, emotionally isolated from other people, still living in a state of constant anger, and now being somewhat forced to cooperate under someone he didn’t agree to work for.

Touya being estranged from his siblings for so long only contributed to his spiraling. Unlike Shigaraki, whose family will never be able to give him what he needed as a child, Touya’s family is alive and CAN give him what he needed, and still needs now.

Then we have Toga. We finally saw her reflect on her family and how it brought her to where she is now:

Unlike Touya’s and Shigaraki’s families, Toga’s family rejected her entire existence. There was rejection and ostracization in both the Todoroki and Shimura families, but there was also unconditional love present in both of those homes. But Toga?

It doesn’t look like there was any, at any point.

We don’t know what Toga’s relationships with her (assumed) siblings were like, but we knew about her parents giving up on her at the ripe old age of 3. Which tells us that before their kid could even really form a personality or an identity of any kind, they stopped viewing Himiko as their child and instead as a burden.

Just like with Tenko and Touya, it took a tragic event for Toga to end up separated from her family, just reinforcing that Toga DID spend the vast majority of her life with her family. In fact, Toga’s separation from her family is fairly new. Sure, she adjusted quickly, but we now know that she never fully moved on from it. If she had fully moved on, their words wouldn’t be echoing for her:

I think it’s safe to say that Toga going back to her family is just not in the cards. Her separation from them is still fresh, it didn’t even take a full two years for them to get rid of her stuff, and on top of that–they had given up on her before she could even fully form her own thoughts. The physical separation is new, but the emotional separation had been there for a long time.

So looking at these three families, we have two different endgames set up.

For Shigaraki it’s obvious. His family is gone. They are physically separated by life and death, and nothing will ever change that. For Toga, her family is physically there, alive. But the emotional separation is too deep, and has existed for all but 3 years of Toga’s lifetime. While it is physically possible for them to be reunited, emotionally, it isn’t.

And then we have Touya. Touya has what Shigaraki doesn’t. A living family. Touya has what Toga doesn’t. A family who wants him back, a mother who wants to mend her mistakes, a brother who wants to know him for the first time, siblings who want to make up for lost time.

BNHA doesn’t undermine the importance of family. It shows that certain circumstances truly can separate and break a family for good (Shigaraki and Toga). But it also shows that families can persevere through even the most trying times, even when things seem hopeless and like they’ll never be whole or complete again (Touya).