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So we fake tradition because in the end, after all the trouble we go through to fight it, we actually need it to survive.  

I heard a podcast yesterday about a straight woman who married a gay man so they could have a family. She knew at that age chances of finding the right man were slim and came to a reasonable and rational agreement.

Can we agree that tradition continues to be important but that we as humans have evolved to extremely complicated depths and layers of truths? Can we stop fighting what comes to us naturally? (Is there really such a thing?)

I find this relevant because I live in a constant state of distrust an disbelief. And I think this is in big part because I’ve turned into my own unit rather than having an expanded network of support. I’ve only done this because I haven’t really had a choice. No one seems to around here. Or very few people and they are so protective of this little piece of sanity that they will protect it with teeth and nails. The untraditional is unwelcome.

So how do you marry untraditional with conventional?

I think you just do it. Just do it. But I generally think that you need two people, at least, in agreement to be able to fully do it. I am so willing to do it. But I really can’t do it alone.

Friday night rambling. Have had an intense month … An intense year. And sometimes I get really tired of constantly nodding and agreeing so I don’t cause a ruckus. Tonight I’m stirring shit up a bit. And you may not understand, and probably don’t but know this: indifference is a hurtful weapon and you’ve used it more than once… And so have I.

Internalized racism in it’s most basic definition are prejudices, biases and blind spots within yourself as an individual. 

Let’s put it this way… from the moment you’re born, you’re collecting data. From how to observe your hands, your body, and how to communicate your thoughts and feelings. Eventually, you’re going to get input about other people and other data that is outside of you.

Having data like “oh, this person is a different skin color than my own” isn't bad. Nor is having a short-term “guilt by association” aka “this Black person pushed me, therefore, all Black people are bad.” What is bad is that there are reinforcements of this outside of yourself that strengthens these prejudices. Therefore, you’re programming yourself to have these biased thoughts that will carry on until you realize that you have these thoughts.

Once you realized that you think that “all Black people are bad” (for example) and you made a conscious effort to change this thought, then you’re at least aware that you have “internalized racism”. 

When dealing with psychology terms, you have to realize that this is a part of “pattern recognition”, which helps you recognize patterns that can help you within your life. It’s not inherently bad; this way of thinking is part of human nature and it’s not easy to overcome. Without this type of thinking, you may not survive long in this world. What is bad is that you may not realize you seen things in a way that can be problematic until either you have an Eureka moment or someone points it out to you. This is why a room full of Black executives and professionals may seem weird to you (and let’s face it, it would be weird to even Black people), but a room full of White executives is considered “standard” or worse… “normal”.

It can be confusing, but this is why this is “level 1” of the problem. You’re so influenced by outside data that you may have racist thoughts within. 

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