#therapyinanutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell, in a Nutshell:

Fear of death is exacerbated by avoidance, like anything related to anxiety. Avoiding it, wires our brains to think that avoiding it IS good, which starts a vicious cycle of not confronting it.

Those of you following this blog, are already on the path of confronting this subject, more and more frequently. It’s a good first step. The American/Western culture is very death avoidant in itself, which doesn’t help, because it keeps us more unfamiliar with death, creating a culture that increases the likelihood of fearing death. 

So what tips does this video offer?

In a nutshell: 

1. Spend more time addressing the reality of death and your fears. Be willing to engage with death. Willingness is the skill of sitting with emotions. 

2. “Use a beginner’s mind” aka learn about death, and observe your reaction to it. Pretend you’re a scientist, and describe your condition as if you were a scientist testing a hypothesis. You’ll be learning about yourself as you’re consciously aware of it. 

3. Learn about people’s reactions as they go through the process of dying. Hospice, and near-death events, to get an understanding of what it is like to die. It will also show that the dying process is still a growing process.  

4. Cognitive Diffusion: If you’re having intrusive thoughts of death or dying, you need to develop the ability to notice you’re having thoughts, and take action against it. Recognize it, recognize it as a THOUGHT that you do not have to believe, and that you have some power over it. Just because it’s in your head, doesn’t mean it’s true. 

5. Build a Value-Based Life: Memento Mori approach, knowing our life is brief helps us build a better life. Accept what you can't change, and changing what you can. Bucket list. 

Cognitive Diffusion is not one I have gone over on its own, but it is one of the main perks I’ve found meditation practices to have for me, as it’s allowed me greater understanding of thoughts, and the occurrence of thoughts. 

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