#themrseffect

Most men have selective hearing, but being married to gamer, hearing is really non-existent as they wear their headphones most of the time.  This means - there is no husband waiting for you by the door, because he doesn't even know that you are home.  There is no “Yes darling? I’m coming” answers to your distress calls because he is to busy killing people on-line. 

If you think that your life is more important than a CS:GO Comp - my God, you’ve got it all wrong.  I literally had to put my emergency aside because the famous line “I can’t help you now, I’m in the middle of a comp!” interrupted my emergency.

Peaceful sleeping is also something that has gone out the window.  Hearing swearing and screaming until 3 am on a Saturday morning is not the ideal beauty sleep.

When the internet is down, my husband turns into King Kong gone mad (this is entertaining though).

Sounds like the perfect husband, right? RIGHT! 

When he is gaming - I have uninterrupted me-time. I can do my nails, binge on Vanderpump Rules, enjoy my chocolate without having to share and be on social media without having to hear the phrase “are you still instagramming?”.

I never have to worry about where my husband is, with who he is or whether he is safe - because he will be in his man-cave (where he was 5 hours ago).

I get to know the gamer side of him, which is extremely funny ALL the time. The screams, the yells, the swearing and the gaming lingo.  The gaming lingo kills me.  Anyone dating a gamer knows that these are hysterical. 

I kinda got into playing PUBG, so now we have something to talk about (when he is not gaming).  

He also made friends with a Belgium guy and this guy happens to have a really nice girlfriend - which is now my friend.  You can really meet all kinds of people from all over the world. I love this.

Yes, a gamer’s life is all about gaming. Now, PUBG and I have taken the backseat as we have to make room for COD World War II. This reminds me - I need to find a new series to binge on...

Even though, gaming takes up majority of his time - I wont get salty as he could be doing way worse things with his spare time. So from my side - game on babe and enjoy winning ‘dem chicken dinners!

Did you know that a seating chart was something, some people just cannot fathom?  I was very surprised that some guests would take it upon themselves to re-arrange the seating plan at a wedding to suit themselves.  Could you be THAT selfish to just take other peoples’ seats?  Or are you THAT insecure that you can not have dinner at the table where you were placed, because God forbid, you should feel all alone for 30 minutes?  Do you know what a fine art it is to set up a seating chart for a wedding in the first place? #clearlynot

To RSVP or not to RSVP,  that should not be the question! You should RSVP almost immediately after getting an invitation.  Surely, you check your calendar the day you get the invitation and reply ‘yes’ or ‘no’ - if not, then I am assuming that you are waiting for something better to come up.  Also, the RSVP date is the latest date that you can reply whether you are attending or not - usually this date is for a specific purpose such as catering.

Mmmm, the infamous dress code...  If the dress code says ‘smart casual’ - I’m pretty sure it doesn’t mean your ripped jeans from 2012.  When it says ‘stunning’ - it doesn’t mean your T-shirt dress with your Adidas sneakers; and when it says ‘casual’, it definitely doesn’t mean your best ball gown.  Just stick to the dress code, because at the end of the day you are the one that will look like an idiot. #justsaying

Time, time, time... If you are invited to a brunch, a lunch, a dinner, a party, a wedding, please be on time.  The most ridiculous thing I have seen, were guests arriving at a wedding AFTER the first kiss.  Seriously? Why didn’t you just stay home? Oh, I get it - you came for the food!

Now that I got all these pet peeves off my chest - I hope you made mental notes and will not be the subject of my next blog post!

Then the wedding comes and goes, now the pressure is on again, with the question: “When are you having kids?". Don’t be fooled, this is not where it ends! (I am not even joking!).  The question that comes up the most is: “how’s married life?”.  Seriously? It’s obviously great if you see us laughing and joking and picking up weight... #justsaying

So here you go, the effect that marriage had on me, the Mrs effect... (and still has on me).  Our first year was a breeze - probably because we have been living together before we got married.  We both feel that we have a stronger-than-ever, unbreakable bond.  If we weren’t besties before - we definitely are now!  

You learn to accept the small things that irritate you, that can’t change - and let’s be honest we all have quirks and moods and bad habits that gets on your partners nerves!  Like, leaving a wet towel on the bed, sleeping like a hooligan that leads to buying new pillows every month, squeezing the toothpaste from the middle, leaving empty shampoo and conditioner bottles in the shower, leaving pairs of shoes in every room (like he is marking his territory, but TG it’s shoes and not pee) and the list goes on.  At the end of the day - these small things are really just that - SMALL things and you learn to accept it and live with it. I mean, like I said - we all have them and for sure I have tons. 

Somehow, their hobbies rub off on you... I literally became a Gamer, overnight! Have you ever? I can play PUBG for hours and I love it. Yes, I am a noob but I love that too.  Pretty sure if he could rank up in PUBG I would not be allowed to play, using his steam account.  

I can honestly say, the effect that Mrs has on me is amazing.  I am loving our life as Mr & Mrs, so much so, I am naming my blog after my new title. So to answer the most annoying question, “How’s married life?” (*say in annoying voice) - it is legit AF. 

Oh, and thanks for asking.

Married AF, forever.