#the unmaking method

disclaimer: a method is not needed to shift, but i am constantly asked what i do to shift so i'm giving the people what they want. i don't always use a method to shift, but when i do, this is what i swear by.

step 1: get comfortable, then forget why ... ୨ৎ

curl into yourself like a cat at rest. stretch out feline-style if that feels more natural. don't make a ritual of it. you are not about to do anything. let the moment feel unimportant, and thus cease the preparations and the making.

step 2: murphy's law. let everything be a little wrong ... ୨ৎ

let things feel unreal. let your thoughts feel misaligned. let there be doubt. don't try to let go, or you'll only hold on tighter. it might get messy in your stream of consciousness, like a dream that hasn't fully loaded. the mess hinders nothing.

step 3: stay gone ... ୨ৎ

the idea is to stop adjustment. stop fixing and micromanaging what doesn't need your help to happen. if you start to feel distant, be distant. if your sense of self softens, don't glue it together. don't reassemble.

step 4: unmake arrival ... ୨ৎ

there is no "getting there". there is only the habit of believing you aren't. there is no arrival because there is no departure, and therefore, there is no laborious journey. you were never separated from where you want to be, nor will you ever be.

step 5: remain in what's left ... ୨ৎ

you are absolutely not dumb !!! i was intentionally abstruse because i was trying to lay only a foundation, not dictate what exact thoughts to have in order to shift. i present to you, however, the expanded version:

the unmaking method ... expanded

step 1: get comfortable, but not in a way that sends chills down your spine, not ritualistically. prior to a shift, there is always this sense of taking action, like you're about to do something big. remember that you are not pulling the weight here, there is no burden on your shoulders. this step is meant to do more than physically relax you. there is also emphasis on mental relaxation. working yourself up for the shift can push you into a spiral as if you're alice falling down the rabbit hole. the aim is to relax in whatever way feels most natural to you to avoid psyching yourself out or feeling pressurized. always avoid taking away the natural aspect away from shifting. it is, at its core, a natural practice.

step 2: so often, there's this idea that there is a certain line of thinking you are "supposed" to follow while shifting. this step is dedicated to letting that fall apart, because if your mind is naturally gravitating to something else, like this reality, or affirming instead of visualizing or vice versa, then that is simply what you are called to in the moment. there is nothing wrong with that, nor does it mean you will be hindered from shifting. don't try to maintain a state of mind that isn't natural to you just because you think that's what you're "supposed" to do. that contradicts the entire concept of letting go, because now you're gripping on tighter. let your stream of consciousness flow without your interference. as long as you have the intention to shift, you will shift.

step 3: staying gone is about not returning to maintenance. at this point, you will ideally have let your mind run along its natural course and drifted into a intuitive state of mind, something that is natural for you. so often while shifting, however, people oversee their thoughts to try to correct them and judge them, maybe even argue with them. this step has no specifics to it because it changes nightly even for me. there are times i'm more called to visualize, other times i want to affirm, and other times i don't want to do either. follow that calling instead of trying to figure out needs to be fixed or micromanaged. your consciousness does not need your help to shift.

step 4: the point of this method is to be guided through the process of breaking down the idea of laboring and traveling to shift. i believe this step is fairly self-explanatory; it's essentially the final thing to strip back. you have not been traveling anywhere all this time, you did not embark on a journey, you are not odysseus. you were never separated from where you want to be and you never will be. what is being unmade here is the perception that you need to "get to" somewhere. there was no departure and there is no arrival, because you were always there.

step 5: this is what is left post-unmaking. i can't tell you exactly what that is because it differs for everyone, it even differs for the same person depending on the shift. if at this point, you find yourself holding onto something or trying to maintain a certain state of mind, then you haven't reached this point yet. clinging to a certain state because you feel required to is the opposite of unmaking; it is making something else entirely, something that isn't innate to you. i advise against this because shifting is so personal and sacred, and doing what is instinctive to you, what calls to you, is what gets you to this point. if you feel yourself getting distant, it's the right path. if you feel yourself noticing the shift, it's the right path. if you feel like something is slipping away, it's the right path. there is no better path than the one that comes to you naturally. this is the shift.