You aren’t homophobic for hating mlm or wlw ship. Dislike it, hate it, hate it with passion, write angry rant about it and post it on all your social media if it makes you feel better - nothing wrong with it as long as you tag it properly. Do as you please.
You are, however, homophobic for holding mlw ships and mlm or wlw ships to vastly different standarts.
You know like, when people just casually refer to a game’s female lead or main support character as “protagonist’s girlfriend” - and nobody cares because everyone knows it is just light-hearted joke born from their canonical ship teases - but then get viscerally angry when people do the same for Ishimondo, Sakuraoi or Tokomaru.
When nobody has any claims when people call a relationships between a boy and a girl who hang out a lot and seem to be really close “canon ship” despite lack of evidence of it being explicitly romantic or sexual - but then instantly jump at their Holy Book Of Canon and bash people’s heads with it whenever someone dares to try the same with mlm or wlw couple that fits the same criteria.
When people have an endless benefit of doubt for heterosexual relatipnships that are built on love but have potential to be really, really problematic under wrong circumstances - and literally zero of it for wlw and mlm ships.
When anybody interested in mlm dynamic gets called fujo dismissively when male fans literally fawning over their underaged waifus and self-insert ships are widely tolerated.
When mlm or wlw ship tease gets dismissed as mindless pandering while mlw ship tease is always totally valid and actually is a sign creator ships them too and wants you to do so.
Etc, etc.
I know those thing are often not done with any ill intent - or even not done consciously. But the fact that all of those things are not just mumbling of some obviously bigoted, malicious people, but rather a large trend prevailing in fandom spaces in general is even more concerning.
Even if it is not done with ill intent, but rather born from subconscious bias, it is dishearting and upsetting to see, especially for, you know, LGBTQA+ people who are already forced to fight for simple recognition of their idetities and their right to exist in their daily lives. And forcing them to fight the same fight when it comes to a work of fiction, which is supposed to be escape and comfort, is honesly a shitty thing to do.
