I only follow 4 Good Girls accounts on here (you being one of them) so I had no idea there were so many people who come on here to just shit on the show—I went into the main tag and was flabbergasted. EVERY other fandom I’ve ever dipped a toe into has “negativity” tags for ease of navigation and filtering. In my last fandom there were serious Disagreements and differences of perspective always, like we were watching a different show entirely, but people were good about tagging for their own sake and for the sake of others. Even just making the attempt to do so makes things better for everyone I think? Anyway, you don’t have to post this if you think it’ll start shit that you’d rather just have put to bed, I just wanted to say that the people who are disagreeing with you on this issue do seem to not be catching the full intent of your words and are glossing over whole chunks of what you’ve said for the sake of being able to double down on a misguided counterpoint. Sorry, this got wordy, I just really appreciate your presence on this site and don’t like to see your good intentions be (possibly willfully) misunderstood.
Thank you for this message yesterday, anon. Since then I’ve participated in the discussion a bit more and came to an understanding with the people at the center of the discussion where I understand their perspective better and have shifted somewhat from my original thoughts and feelings. I’ve said before that I’m not averse to talking through disagreements or having difficult conversations, and I appreciate the time and energy put into helping me see another perspective, and I no longer am advocating for widely tagging any and all negativity as I see how that can make the space feel divisive for BIPOC fandom members who are raising points they want to be seen and heard by the broader fandom.
That said, I still personally feel that there are different kinds of negativity separate from that issue that exist, and my original points still stand specifically for my mutuals because the result of it is that:
I feel like I can’t keep producing the content that I have been,
I feel like I can’t continue to follow all of the people I have been on this platform,
So IF you care about the content I produce and/or a follow from me AND you like to vent about issues you take with the show that are not rooted in criticisms about representation, race, gender, sexuality, etc... please consider tagging these innocuous posts with something unique that would allow me to blacklist it
That’s it. If you DON’T care about those things (and most people don’t and I don’t expect them to—but many people do judging by the amount of times I’ve been DM’ed with someone asking me why I unfollowed them usually as a result of a Tumblr glitch) there are no hard feelings. Again: you do you boo! Use this site however is fun/cathartic/meaningful to you! I would understand that my decision to disengage with your content (or various fandom activities) doesn’t affect you at that point, and that I shouldn’t feel guilty for doing so even if I otherwise consider us friends, and you shouldn’t feel guilty for having different priorities than me. Our priorities just wouldn’t align and there’s nothing wrong with that. No hard feelings and I’ll visit your blog and consider refollowing when I have the spoons to do so, because I like you and the content you have on your blog, which is why I was following you in the first place.
On that note, that’s my final piece on the matter beyond answering asks where other people have reached out to me about it in understanding because that’s all the energy I have for it at this time. I’ll be tagging any future posts on the topic #tagging discourse if this is content you’d like to skip on your dash.
