#syskid positivity

We know you are so strong in all that you do, even when it’s tough! Hopefully you’re able to still have some fun and take it easy every now and then! We are so proud of you, and we know your system is too! Thanks for reading, and take care!

Shoutout to one of our alters Annabelle for being so patient with middles and littles and accommodating their sensory needs.

Shoutout to Odessa for keeping cool no matter how stressful things have been while moving.

🍼👥💬 Shout Out to System Littles! 💬👥🍼

Hey there, kiddos! I just want to take some time to tell you all how super amazing awesome you are! Yes, you! You’re so little, but you do so, so much! You’re working hard to help your system, and you’re doing the very, very important job of being yourself, too!

I want you to know that you’re important, that you matter. I want you to know that you’re real, and valid, and wonderful, and I want to give you all the praise and kind words in the whole wide world, because you so deserve them. Keep going, ok? Because you’re gonna do even more great things.

System little positivity for @andrew-the-totoro . I saw in your bio that you’re only 4, so I tried to keep the wording simple. I hope that was the right choice! Edits are on the way, ok?

To the little or young headmates who were traumatized or who hold on to trauma memories:

✨ We know you went through so much, and it’s not fair that you were hurt by others around you or people who were supposed to take care of you. It’s okay to be upset about what happened. It’s okay to cry, or to feel sad, lost, angry, lonely, or scared. These feelings are natural and you’re not bad or wrong for feeling them! ✨

🧸 If you can’t talk about what happened to you or share your memories with anyone else, be it a therapist, loved one, or another headmate, that’s okay. You should never ever feel pressured to do things you don’t want to do, and that includes opening up about the memories you hold on to! You’re allowed to take your time, breathe, and process things at your own pace. 🧸

💖 If you do want to talk about your painful memories, we hope you can find a safe space to do so with a person you trust and are comfortable with. You deserve to have agency in your own healing journey, and that means getting to make decisions about when and how to talk about your trauma! 💖

🐶 We hope that you can find comfort and happiness in your lives, even if it’s only sometimes! It’s easy for kids who were hurt a lot or traumatized to feel like they never got the chance to have a childhood. We want to let you know that it’s never too late to enjoy being a kid! We hope your future is filled with toys, plushies, stickers, coloring books, fun games, pillow forts, tasty snacks, and playing pretend! 🐶

🍓 Please remember that you are so loved, cherished, and valued by those around you. And remember that the pain you experienced and have to hold onto is not your fault in any way! We promise, you are not to blame for the way others treated you, even if sometimes it feels that way. 🍓

🌈 We hope you can keep your chin up, distract yourself with something fun if you need to, and find comfort in your loved ones. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this (or listen if an older headmate is helping you). Know that we care about you, we’re rooting for you, and we’re wishing you the very best in all that you do! 🌈

Syskids are an important part of their systems and are just as deserving of autonomy and agency as any other headmate! They also deserve to be loved, cherished, and treated with respect. So here’s to the littles out there!

Whether a little is a trauma holder, protector, caretaker, persecutor, gatekeeper, host, has some other role or no role at all, they are a vital part of each system they belong to. Littles help keep a system in tune with their emotions, and show us it’s okay to laugh, cry, be goofy, or feel lonely.

If you’re a little reading this (or perhaps an older headmate is helping or reading to you), this message is just for you!

⭐️ We see how hard you work to help the system - it’s not always easy but you’re doing a great job! You are very special to the members of your system, and they love you very much! It’s okay to get sad or angry or confused sometimes - thank you for trying your hardest even when it’s tough! You are wonderful just the way you are. Please know that you are helping your system every day just by being yourself! You are just as real and valid as everyone else in your system, and just as unique, bright, and amazing! We hope you have a lovely day and can eat a yummy snack or play with some of your favorite toys! Thank you so much for all you’ve done to help your system - we know you’ll continue to grow, learn, and do great things! ⭐️

And to system members who aren’t syskids, we’ll leave y’all with this: littles are people too, just like you and me! It’s important that their voices be heard and their wants and needs taken into account. Our system littles need to be cherished, uplifted, and made to feel safe, comfortable, and secure. We know y’all are working hard to take care of your system - we see and recognize that and want to say thank you for all the hard work you’ve done so far! Please continue to care for your syskids (even when it’s hard, even when you don’t understand them), and give them a snack/sticker/hug for us!

Last of the system little positivity for @andrew-the-totoro .