snr szn ~ advice for high school seniors
itâs not gonna be perfect, and thatâs ok. high school movies tell us that senior year is this amazing time in your life where you have all these formative experiences that shape the course of your destiny or something, but in my experience this is not really the case. my senior year was somehow both excruciatingly slow and very fast, and it had ups and downs just like any other school year. so if your senior year isnât a wonderful collection of instagrammable moments, donât worry. everyone else is finding âsenior seasonâ a little underwhelming too, even the people who seem to be having the most fun. quite frankly, you shouldnât want your senior year of high school to be the best year of your life.Â
college apps are important, but you donât have to kill yourself over them. i know, i can say this because i just finished them, but itâs so true. applying to college is a horrible, tedious process that iâm going to attempt to break down in another masterpost. i went to a high school where people were fucking obsessed with getting into college, and it was sort of horrifying to watch people self-destruct over the process. even i (and i consider myself a fairly private, non-competitive, even-keeled person) went a little nuts towards the end. iâve said it before and iâll say it again, there is no reason on godâs green earth to apply to twenty or more schools. itâs expensive (most application fees are 60+ USD), time-consuming, and stressful. the only reason i can even see why you might be doing this is if you qualify for a bunch of application fee waivers, but even then, itâs just stupid. most colleges make you write secondary essays in addition to the common or coalition app essay, and that doesnât even factor in scholarship applications, interview prep, and keeping up with school on top of everything. the best thing you can do for yourself is pick around ten-ish schools that youâre actually serious about attending and skip the hassle. you will get into at least one college if you apply smart. trust me. the people i know who went ham with applications were miserable all the time (even the smartest ones) and most of them didnât even get into their top choice schools. when youâre churning out 3+ essays every month, it follows that theyâre not all gonna be winners. additionally, know that life will go on even if you donât get into harvard. relax. you have an entire life ahead of you. even if it doesnât work out exactly how you planned, good things take time, ya feel?Â
youâre still valid even if you donât participate in every âsenior activityâ possible. âbut itâs your last pep rally!!â âyou HAVE to go to prom!!â âletâs go to every football game this season!!â no. just no. youâre really not gonna remember a lot of this stuff. if large crowds of ppl arenât your thing, if youâre stressed or tired, if you donât have the money (a lot of these âsenior onlyâ activities are EXPENSIVE expensive or at least they were at my school), or if you just have no interest in homecoming or whatever, ITâS FINE. you donât have to justify this stuff to other people. i let ppl guilt trip me into doing a bunch of shit for our âlast high school memoriesâ or whatever and uhhh i didnât always have a good time. for one thing, iâve never had a shit ton of school spirit or whatever and two, being around crowds of ppl is pretty draining for me. the only âsenior activityâ i actually enjoyed was prom, but i knew ppl who skipped out on that and ya know what? i think they were ok. i never bought a yearbook. itâs fine. you should shape your senior year around whatâs mentally/financially safe for you + and what youâre actually interested in, not what people expect you to do.
you donât really have to do extracurricular activities this year, so donât do anything youâre not truly passionate about. i stopped doing a lot of stuff like model un and science olympiad this year because i just wasnât interested in them anymore. and i donât regret it. to be blunt, you already have the lines on your resume filled by those activities if youâve done them for a long time. so if youâre not feelinâ it, donât waste your time. just do the things you wanna do. i did a lot of theater stuff last year and had a great time. it was super rewarding and i had a pretty good time with my castmates, and i was glad i had done that instead of more âacademicâ activities like scioly.Â
itâs ok to be unsure about your plans for the future. for some reason, this is the year, every adult in your life is gonna be like, âwHaTâs Ur MaJoR???â and âwHaT jOb Do YoU wAnNa HaVe wHeN u GrOw uP??â as a result, you can start to feel a lot of pressure around having an answer prepared, and if you are on the fence about what you wanna do with your life, you can feel like other ppl have their shit together a lot more and that youâre aimless and stupid. trust me, youâre not, though. i personally think itâs unfair that we expect 18 y/os, who in many ways are still kids, to have their whole life planned out. a lot is still liable to change even after high school, and I think youâll be remiss if you donât allow your dreams and ambitions to change with it. if youâre truly unsure about your plans but you know youâre going to college, iâd recommend making sure none of the places youâre applying to are going to lock you down in a major when you set foot on campus. i have friends who are going to large universities who have already basically declared a major, which to me seems like an odd system. if 4-yr college isnât in the cards for you for whatever reason, try taking a year off, getting a job, or community college. a lot of ppl i know look down on ccs, but to my knowledge, community college can be a great start to figuring out what you wanna do with your life. you have time. donât rush it.
getting sick of your school friends is normal. it sounds mean, but in my experience, itâs true. i mean youâve gone to school with these people for 4 or more years now, and youâve changed a lot. and that doesnât mean you donât like them and wish them well, but there can be days where youâre like âomg pls stop talking to me rn!!â especially in that lull after application season. donât be mean to anyone ofc, but realize that feeling exasperated with your peers is just part of the process, and youâre not a bad person for wanting a little bit of space. in my experience, unless the issue is w regards to toxicity or people being generally shitty, ppl will be able to connect w each other much more normally after school is over.Â
you will get senioritis to some degree, but you have to push through it. it must be great to be one of those people who literally never stops working. but for the vast majority of us, some kind of senioritis will slap us in the ass after applications are done. you will have no motivation to do coursework but! remember that coursework needs to be completed! to be completely honest, once youâve been accepted to college, you really only need to maintain a C average to not get rescinded, and i knew plenty of people who screwed around more than i did and they didnât get their admission rescinded. but like, you donât want to be one of those people who somehow fails a class because you donât âfeel likeâ doing the homework. you need to graduate, you need to hold onto your scholarship, and you need to maintain your accepted status. quite honestly, you need to kick ur own ass and make yourself work, whether thatâs by turning down invites to hang out, or putting your phone in a different room. also, donât be that person whoâs playing iphone games in every class. your teachers will think youâre an asshole, and thatâs really not the move.Â
you donât have to take everyoneâs advice. this is the year everyone wants to be an expert on adulting, whether thatâs your peers or parentsâ colleagues or school counselors. in the end, your are the only one who can decide whatâs right for you based on your financial situation and what you are comfortable with. iâm not saying âdonât take anyoneâs adviceâ, because i truly believe there are some people out there who have the means to help you succeed. but i think you should pick and choose because youâre about to be fed a deluge of information that may or may not be useful or relevant to what you want to do. for example, people told me that i was limiting myself by not applying to any ivy league schools or very many competitive universities, or that i should lie about my race on my application (!!) because of the bias against ppl of asian descent in college admissions (note: i actually wrote about my heritage in my common app essay so it wasnât like it was some secret lmao), which were uhhh not helpful. do what feels right and donât feel the need to humor ppl who donât have your best interests at heart.Â
donât compare yourself with other ppl. itâs natural to be a little jealous of peers who snag acceptances to prestigious colleges on full-tuition scholarships or land dream jobs/gap-year programs right out of high school. itâs a bit of an ugly feeling, but iâm not gonna sit here and say i didnât wish i was one of those people at a point. thatâs disingenuous in the extreme. itâs ok to be disappointed if everything doesnât all work out, but at a certain point you need to accept whatâs happening to you and make the very damn best of it. wallowing in self-pity just because your classmates are succeeding is just stupid. also, recognize that everyoneâs ability to achieve their post-hs goals is wildly different based on their own circumstances. if you are less financially able to pay for college, for example, your opportunities are more limited than someone with a six-figure college fund. itâs quite frankly naive to assume that everyone shares your experience. be happy for people who do well. be happy for people who are proud of themselves. donât try to take other people down because youâre feeling bitter. iâve said it before and iâll say it again-other peopleâs success is not your failure.Â
take time to do some much needed self care. senior year can be hectic, and itâs important to disengage from stressful situations. take a walk. watch a movie with your friends. take a long shower. donât think you have to be âproductiveâ all the time. you wonât be, and thatâs ok.Â