#strict parenting

a list compiled by an enby with extremely strict parents

-Be queer lol

-Be on online at all. Google? More like pervertgle

-Sigh

-Cry

-Roll my eyes

-Express negative emotions

-Practice piano unless it’s 2-5 pm

-Talk to my dad about important things without scheduling an appointment (yes this is legit)

-Say “okay” instead of “yes sir” and “yes ma’am”

-Open the freezer

-Open windows

-Leave doors open even for a second

-Again with the sighing. WHY CAN I NOT SIGH LOL

-Watch Gravity Falls 😔

-Not go to church

-Eat lunch before finishing my first subject in school (this sometimes means I have to wait until 1 pm or later to eat lol)

-Buy/own/chew gum

-Own putty

-Ask to be paid for babysitting (lol I asked once and was immediately shut down)

-Have different opinions than them

-Dislike my siblings

-Be in my closet for more than 10 minutes at a time (this is a walk-in and is basically the equivalent of my bedroom, my main bedroom area is shared with my 3 sisters and there’s a Ring camera in there)

-Touch the bell button (a doorbell that my mom put in our room that she rings when she wants us to come see her)

-Touch the A/C (this is pretty standard though I think?)

-Have friends that are guys

-Hang out with queer people

-Wander away

-AGAIN WITH THE SIGHING—

specifically, my big example is ao3.

I have heard of people:

accessing ao3 on pinterest

getting to ao3 from ibisPaintX

personally downloaded fics to my files app

and last of all, a friend told me they read fanfiction from the STOCKS APP

A child’s first lie can be a significant moment in their growth, signaling a movement towards independent thought. Though these early “white lies” may bring a smile to parents’ faces, they can also cause concern if dishonesty develops into a habit or arises in unsuitable situations. It’s important to recognize what these behaviors represent, as doing so can help nurture open communication and…

I find it funny that controlling parents are surprised when their kid does something reasonable. Like eating something healthy or reading a book instead of using an electronic device. Like, come on. Nobody wants to eat overly sugary stuff all the time. Everyone’s eyes most definitely hurt after staring at a screen for a long period of time. At some point, they will get sick of “bad things”. They will moderate their food and activities if they are not forced to all the time. Parents do not need to regulate every little thing their child does. If you raise them right, without too many boundaries regarding every little thing, they will know how to act. If they don’t like something, the chances of them doing that same thing again is very slim. 

The worst part is when parents are surprised that other kids talk to their parents. It shouldn’t be surprising. Your child wanting to talk to you, the parent, shouldn’t be surprising. Parents often play off their child not talking to them because ‘they’re being a teenager/going through a phase’. If it is surprising, you- as a parent- need to change how you parent. That is your child. You are the closest person to them. If they do not want to talk to you, it is because they feel like they can’t talk to you. Whether it is because you create an unwelcoming environment where they do not feel comfortable talking or because they think you will punish them for what they say or just ignore them. You are the one or two people that your child has known their entire life and if they do not want to talk to you, it’s not because they do not want to talk to you. It’s because they do not feel comfortable talking to you.

If you respect your kid, if you raised them right and know that they are smart enough to act right, let them live. They’ll do the right thing if you let them live their life. Kids need parents to guide them, not control them.

Let me 

Destroy myself

Let me 

explode-

A head blown off its shoulders, 

A bloodless heart

Because I am 

eroding

A slow, painful death 

Mother, 

Let me at least