#stopthecommunitybully

Friendly reminder for anyone attending gatherings or events:

Every community should be able to have open conversations about safety.

That includes asking questions before you attend, during orientation, and while you’re there.

Pay attention to how those questions are received.

Are they answered clearly?

Are they welcomed… or brushed aside?

It’s okay to ask:

• How are concerns handled?

• What happens if someone crosses a boundary?

• Do the rules apply equally to everyone, including organizers and their friends?

Transparency shouldn’t feel uncomfortable in a space that claims to be safe.

Go with people you trust. Avoid isolating yourself in unfamiliar environments.

Let someone outside the event know where you are. Trust your instincts if something feels off.

A safe environment isn’t just something that’s stated.

It’s something that’s demonstrated, consistently.

Last post of the night.

I just want to sincerely thank the unbelievable amount of support I continue to receive regarding all of this. And yes, I completely understand the private messages, the quiet support, and the inability for some of you to publicly like, reblog, unfollow, or speak up because you’re afraid of becoming the next target yourselves. No judgment from me whatsoever. Truly. Nobody else deserves to have their name dragged through this mess.

If anything, the amount of private support has honestly been overwhelming in the best way. If I posted every message I’ve received, it would probably clog the internet from the traffic alone.

But at the end of the day, I’m tough as nails, and I’ve spent enough time and energy on people who simply are not worth mine, or anyone else’s. So I’m signing off for the night.

And remember:

New sticker design.

Laugh if you want.

Or… start asking better questions about the spaces you’re walking into.

It’s interesting how often the same circles reappear under different names in different places.

If you’re paying attention, the pattern tends to speak for itself.

If you’re attending private gatherings, especially new ones, take a second to understand who’s involved and what accountability looks like.