Please don't be mad at her, it's not her fault.
She's our split holder, she may take everything very seriously and personally but she doesn't know how not to. She pushes people away and splits as a protection method, even if it's wrong. She's doing her role, a role that was given to her beyond her control. She doesn't want to be mean or awful, she doesn't know how not to be. She isn't sweet or particularly gentle but she's honest and that's what's important to her. Please understand it's not her fault. Please be her friend even if she is mean or cold sometimes, she is more than her role. Please do not bash her for her hostility or her pulling/pushing away—it's all she knows how to do to protect us, praise her for her honesty. She isn't easy to deal with but I think she still deserves love. Please be a good friend to her.
