I’m coming out as someone who experiences sexual and romantic attraction separately. Not only am I bisexual but not biromantic, I’m only ever either romantically or sexually attracted to someone. Never both at the same time.
This can happen with just one person too (which is confusing so let me explain)
One of my comfort characters is Spencer Reid. Sometimes I’m romantically attracted to him but I’m never sexually attracted to him when this occurs. But other times in sexually attracted to him and not romantically.
I don’t know if there’s a label for this and I don’t even know what I would look up to find a specific label so…? Does this make me aroace or like,,, ??
ooh! i don't know a specific label for it, but i think just looking up "asexual microlabels" or something of the sort would lead you down the right path! i know there are labels for when your attraction spikes, and for when you're attracted to ficticious people, but i'm unsure if there's one that has to do with sexual and romantic attraction intersecting. worst case scenario you ask someone to coin it for you or if you're feeling brave, coin it yourself!
also, if you wanna ID as aroace, go for it! there's nobody telling you what you can and can't do if it feels right- at least, there shouldn't be. if there are, drop kick their asses and find better friends /hj
all my love,
lepi
