#sorry for the incredible decrease in quality

1. Even if your ultimate goal is to find a girlfriend, you should start by looking for advice on how to make friends and how to be generally well-liked socially. This is where you're more likely to find advice like "wash regularly" or "change clothes regularly", because people are less likely to assume you already know those things when you ask those questions than when you ask about finding a girlfriend.

2. Figure out what kinds of people you are compatible with, and hang out in places more likely to have such people.

3. Unless you are somewhere designed for that purpose, people will find it off-putting if they can tell you are approaching them for the purpose of a date. This is because most people want to be approached romantically because someone is drawn to internal qualities they have, and not as part of a numbers game. For similar reasons, people will find it off-putting if they can tell you are bitter about finding it difficult to date. Yes, this means that the more you want it the harder it gets. Yes, that sucks and is unfair, but no one can do anything about it, sorry.

4. As a straight man, it may be better to ask people out to get things started. This too sucks and is unfair and I do think straight women need to get their shit together about it, but it's how things are right now. Do not do it immediately, for the reasons mentioned in point 3. Wait until you've established some kind of positive rapport that would make her want to say yes; if you ask specifically how long is best, some people might have advice.

5. Following the above steps will not guarantee you a girlfriend, because nothing will. The best it can do is somewhat increase your chances. If you get bitter about it not working, that will decrease your chances, see point 3.

Okay, right now it's not that I'm looking for advice, I'm more commenting on the fact that you are so incredibly hesitant to *give* advice for reasons I truly, genuinely do not understand.

Like, this is an anonymous ask and from context clues I think this is the third ask you've sent, but the very first one where you admit that, actually, you do in fact have extremely concrete advice which you are entirely capable of articulating, but for some reason you will only do so if somebody argues with you extensively beforehand.

And for decades I didn't know I was supposed to treat this like converting to Judaism where the Rabbi denies you three times but you're supposed to come back, I just went,

"Whelp, I guess all I can do is passively wait for something to happen and treat women like people."

Followed by,

"This isn't working, I'm autistic so I must unconsciously be doing something that makes the women around me realize I'm still a sexist who doesn't see them as human, I need to be even more neurotic about this and maybe try to convince myself that I'm totally fine never having sex or having a significant other, because wanting it too much means that I'm one of those bad men who thinks he's entitled to sex."

Which was only then, after bashing my head against this for the majority of my life, did I start hesitantly saying to other male friends that it wasn't working, and then they said most of what you said up there.

And like... Seriously, why?

You're incredibly hesitant to say this stuff out loud, and will do so only if someone really presses you, and your whole mien is that you're really pissed off that I made you say it.

But why? Why not just start with this stuff? What's the downside?

And like, for a long time all of my friends would unhesitatingly call themselves feminists, almost all "sex-positive feminists" and one of the commonplace cliches of sex-positive feminism was "We need to teach men to do better."

It's so wild to me that when I tell people, "I spent a long time thinking that sex positive feminism had something to teach me as a man about how I should think about sex" their first question is,

"Why?"

Because... Everybody I knew agreed that we as a society needed to teach men to do better and that feminism was the tool to do so, in exactly those words?

How on earth is this a point of confusion?

Asking for your own experience, any decision I make is mine alone, I just want to ensure I amnt waiting too long before making the call for my little old man and hearing other people's experiences might help to reaffirm when the time is right

I'm so sorry you're in a position where this question is necessary. It's incredibly sad and hard when you realize this something you HAVE to ask. Losing a pet is incredibly tough.

My own personal rule is this: I keep a list of the five things my pet loves to do. Once an animal can't do 3 out of 5, it's time to say goodbye. I try not to include things like eating or sleeping, because that's kind of basic, you know? But I often do include 'loves this specific treat' because an animal turning down their favorite treat is in severe distress.

You also can't divorce your OWN quality of life from your pet's quality of life either. When i had to euthanize Skitten a few years back, I was aware that I could have kept her going a few more weeks. Maybe even a couple of months. But it would have represented a severe impact on my OWN quality of life because I would have been acutely aware of the risk of her dying alone somewhere in the house. There was a chance I'd wake up and she would be gone already.

That sort of stress was just... too much for me.

And that's not even covering the MEDICAL stress of handfeeding a pet, expressing their bladder/stimulating them to poop, cleaning them up after accidents, etc. I'm not going to shame people who DO do this, obviously, but I'm also going to stand by the people who realize they can't do this. It's an important part of the quality of life check, because it's not just your pet's quality of life. It's yours too and I think a lot of pet owners kind of gloss that over.

Laps of Love has its own quality of life assessment that may be valuable to you as well.

Everyone is going to talk about the story already. Everyone has read the story already. You can find a hundred reviews in probably 10 different languages (mostly Italian) everywhere (mostly papersera). Evroniani is iconic. That’s why I’m going to review the shitty English translation. Or is it shitty? I don’t know! We’re gonna find out today! I have no idea what I’m doing!

Hi, everyone.

Ok, I don’t want to waste your time but I wanted to be upfront about what’s going on in my life just so you all know.

Last night I got what is probably one of the worst emails that could have ever appeared in my inbox? Our landlord has given us a 60-day notice to get out. For context, my mom and I have been living here since the year 2000. We have never been late on rent or missed a payment despite every difficulty life has thrown at us in that time and this has completely blindsided us.

We haven’t spoken to any of the neighbors yet but some of the wording on the notice makes me think that they may be kicking out the entire building. Or maybe they’re just targeting those of us in the non-renovated units because we’ve been here so long and they could charge a new tenant much more with a quick kitchen and bathroom upgrade. Renoviction is a new word I just learned. I don’t know. That’s what happened to my brother at his last apartment. They kicked out everyone in his building, renovated, raised the rent, then let new people move in.

They suddenly started increasing our rent every year like clockwork a few years ago so I’ve had a feeling they’ve been trying to price us out for a while but I didn’t know they could just… tell us to leave just because they can. Rent consistently paid up and everything for 24 years.

The notice we received really doesn’t say much so it’s all speculation I guess. It doesn’t state a reason why it just says we need to be gone by March 31st.

But basically, I’m really not doing well right now in all honesty. I slept for maybe an hour last night and it’s like a switch flipped in me as soon as I read the email. My stomach has had this weird knotted feeling ever since and I can’t stand up for more than a few minutes before needing to lie down again in case I either faint or vomit… I’m not sure which but it’s been this way since last night. I had to stand up at the sink to wash one singular dish from dinner and I could barely do it. At least I didn’t see the email until after I ate last night because I still have no appetite now.

However bad I’m feeling I know my mom is probably feeling worse. She has been for a while. She’s getting older and my dad is no longer alive. Aside from my brother and one irl friend I still see in person regularly, we have no family or other support system in this country and are well and truly on our own, staring down the barrel of homelessness if we can’t quickly secure a place and move decades worth of our life there before the end of March.

All of this to say, I don’t know what our usual art shenanigans here are going to look like during this time. I am incredibly stressed to the point where I am physically ill but I also can’t pause and step away because I do need the income that I receive from your support of me/my art here. It’s just the reality. I’ve never been particularly Big And Successful with what I do so your support means all the much more and makes a real impact on my life.

I am so sorry if this dampens your mood at all today or if you notice a decrease in the quality of art I’m able to deliver over the next few months but I will try my best to keep things rolling and let you know if there’s any particular delays to expect.

To top it off, I requested a tour of a nearby apartment last night (more expensive than our current) and the name of the person who just texted me back has the same name as our current landlord. Who wants to start taking bets? I know for a fact they own a lot of property in the area so this isn’t looking promising.

Anyways. Sorry for this downer of a post. If we’re not homeless in 2 months then… I dunno. I’ll have somewhere indoors to do art? Yay? You can imagine the housing market we’re dealing with being in California. The prospect of moving at this point has always been one of my biggest fears but we’ll see if we get lucky real fast 😢

If you've ever thought about supporting my Patreon or anything else, now and over the next few months might be a good time if you can swing it. Maybe it'll help us secure a place to move if I can point to it and be like 'Look! A whole income!' 🥲 Idk man.

There's an art update in the (public) post I made if you want to see what we're at least trying to work on for sticker club through all of this.

Mishy

Once upon a time, fireflyflarenight randomly thought, hmm... What if TDL in CRK??????

Here are the results of that thought

The Gacha sprite? [Quality kinda bad, sorry]

This would probably be one of the story sprites?

crk stats and descriptions

You see something in the distance. Someone, rather. They're floating, high above the raging amber flames that consume the ruins of the city. It's the infamous internet terrorist, The Dark Lord! With hands full of fire and an aura that inflicts terror, they have destroyed countless websites and lives. Their overwhelming power renders them unstoppable. Recently, however, they have been suspiciously quiet. Is the internet safe at last or are they plotting something terrible?

type: charge

position: front

rarity: legendary [or Super Epic]

skill: [how do you come up with a skill name???]

The Dark Lord slashes the opponents within range with their blades, deleting parts of the opposing team's code. The corrosive nature of the attack dispels all buffs and inflicts stun and shock debuffs while increasing CRIT DMG received and decreasing DEF. The Dark Lord gains CRIT%, CRIT DMG, and healing. The Dark Lord's ATK SPD increases if The Chosen One is on the opposing team. If The Chosen One is on The Dark Lord's team, DMG focus will be activated (The Dark Lord reduces The Chosen One's DMG received and takes a portion of the DMG received by The Chosen One.) and The Chosen One will gain DEF and healing buffs. When using this skill, they become temporarily immune to interrupting effects.

Soulstone Description: This stone holds a piece of The Dark Lord's soul. Youch! It gave you a static shock. [???]

Debuffs given to opposing team: Injury, Fatal wound, DEF Down, Shock, CRIT DMG Received Up, Stun, Dispel [Should injury and fatal wound be replaced by data corruption?]

Buffs: CRIT% Up, CRIT DMG Up, Healing Up

Random things I want to say:

These stats aren't very balanced. Dark deletes your buffs, stuns you, and reduces your max hp. That feels incredibly unfair.

^I thought it would be funny if I gave Dark cutesy eyes^

^me using scratch instead of a normal drawing app^

Some of the writing in this post might be questionable because I have a low English grade :D

[minors dni]

no because you are SO right like imagine young but strict jihoon who became a ceo early on in his career after the old one spontaneously retired to go live on an island and you've been with the company for a while now (at least long enough that you were there when the old ceo was in power) and despite being one of the best employees the company had jihoon hates you

you don't know why either, it's been like this since he got the job, shooting down your ideas, scoffing at your reports, always making you redo your projects, nothing you do can make him happy, in fact it does the opposite, everytime you interact with him a look of discontent settles deep onto his face

please read!

hi! i’d like to clean up my blog.

i’ve been incredibly busy these past several months hence the inactivity and inconsistent fanfic updates. due to this, i’ve neglected and abandoned the requests in my inbox including my notifications (tags to celebration posts, random posts, and etcetera) which i really apologize for!

i have also been very demotivated with writing, so i apologize for the decrease in quality with my most recent ones.

i’d also like to apologize because i will now be moving forward from the requests i’ve received previously from old celebration events. i’m really sorry, you can always send those requests to other writers! <3

i’m also going to redo and try to revamp my blog, although i think i would very much love to keep the theme. i’m going to create new masterlists, so don’t mind the mess on your feed with masterlists full of incomplete links, they’ll be under construction.

i’ll also be redoing my taglists because i don’t want to tag and bother a now uninterested audience.

i’ve really been considering moving blogs like most of my mutuals have done for the past year but i’ve grown attached to this blog of mine, so i’m keeping this shitpost-stacked blog because i’ve made a lot of great memories here and i’d still love to make some more.

i would like to address my mutuals who i haven’t interacted with so much as i did last year. please know that i love love love you all and please tag me in your celebratory posts, i really appreciate those and i will try my best to respond and participate in them! :))

i’ll be trying to write for marvel and stranger things and stardew valley because they’re the fandoms i’m most particularly interested in at the moment so other fandoms might be dormant for now i hope you could understand that.

anyway, sorry for the serious tone. it’s my flop era rn and i’d love to get back in the game and get more notes in fanfics so i’d love prompts and more random bullshit in my ask box again come back you fucking idiots