#snakepit

She hasn’t scared me away, and she hasn’t “won.” I’m choosing to protect my own peace because I’m better than continuing to live inside this level of toxicity.

I’ve received death wishes, threats involving family members, and relentless misogynistic abuse towards other women. I don’t want or need any of that in my life.

I’m leaving this blog up, along with the tags and posts, so the information and screenshots remain available for anyone who wants to look for themselves.

But I’m stepping away from Tumblr now. This space has become far too toxic, and I refuse to let it keep taking up my time or affecting my real life.

You can find me on Instagram, where I’ll be going back to what I actually enjoy: fashion, community and having fun.

This isn’t defeat. It’s choosing peace.

Thank you to all the kind, supportive people I’ve met here and really- message me on instagram!

💕💕💕💕

Once again, there is no proof that Britain paid nothing towards any of these trips, no proof that Tom funded everything, and no proof that this supposed Bahamas trip is even happening exactly as claimed.

But even if a wealthy man does take his girlfriend somewhere expensive… so what? Dating someone with money does not automatically make a woman a gold digger.

Britain is accused of only wanting Tom for his money, yet when she reposts something saying she values handwritten notes and affection over expensive gifts, that is somehow mocked too. She genuinely cannot win.

If she enjoys luxury, she’s using him. If she values affection, she’s a hypocrite. At some point it stops being “gossip” and starts looking like finding any possible excuse to criticise the same woman.

And if I upset you that much, please feel free to unfollow and block me on ALL of your accounts.

“I’m messaging you regarding your daughter Bex.”

I’m 35 years old. Contacting my mother to discuss my online activity as though she is responsible for managing me was unnecessary and inappropriate.

“She has been cyberbullying and cyber-harassing a relative of mine.”

I have criticised a public blog and responded to content that was posted publicly. Disagreement and criticism are not automatically cyberbullying. If you believe a specific post violates a law or Tumblr’s rules, report that specific post through the proper channels.

“My relative has a Tumblr page where she discusses the relationship of an actor.”

That description leaves out the repeated personal attacks, misogynistic claims and serious allegations made about real people. My objection has never simply been that she holds a different opinion.

“Your daughter made a blog about my relative and has been cyberbullying her nonstop for months.”

The blog addresses public claims made by that account.

“My relative doesn’t know I’m telling you this.”

That is convenient, because it allows the person being defended to deny any involvement if the message is exposed. The account used to contact my mum was brand new and appeared to have been created solely to send this message.

I cannot prove who was behind the account, so I won’t claim that I can. But the attempt to create distance from the person at the centre of the dispute, while contacting my family anonymously, is exactly why this felt calculated rather than like a genuine attempt to resolve anything.

“She’s scared because this is causing her distress and anxiety.”

I don’t want anybody distressed. She is free to block me, report any post she believes breaches Tumblr’s rules and stop reading my blog. The same boundaries apply to both of us.

“Bex has even found her Instagram page.”

I requested to follow an account because I had been told it might belong to her and wanted to establish whether it was active. I did not publish private information from it, contact her relatives or use it to intimidate her.

By contrast, I was sent anonymous messages containing my real name and personal Instagram information alongside “I’d be careful if I was you,” followed by further references to my identity. Shortly afterwards, my mum was contacted directly. So presenting my viewing or requesting an Instagram account as threatening, while my personal details were being used to reach and pressure my family, is deeply hypocritical.

“An attorney has already been contacted.”

Anyone is entitled to seek legal advice. If an attorney needs to contact me, they can do so formally and directly. My mother is not my legal representative.

“If the harassment and bullying doesn’t stop, the police will be contacted.”

You are completely entitled to contact the police, and they are welcome to look through my blog in full.

Bullying and harassment involve things such as targeted abuse, threats, personal attacks, repeated unwanted contact, encouraging others to pile on, or sending people to harass someone.

So I’ll ask plainly: can anyone point to a post of mine that contains threats, targeted abuse, instructions for others to contact her, or personal attacks unrelated to what she has publicly posted?

Criticising public claims, challenging misinformation and disagreeing with someone’s behaviour are not automatically bullying simply because the person being criticised dislikes it.

If there is a specific post that is believed to cross a legal or platform boundary, then identify it and report it properly. Vague references to police in a message to my mum do not prove wrongdoing.

“I hope you have a talk with her.”

Again, I am a 35-year-old adult. My mum is not responsible for disciplining me over a Tumblr disagreement.

“Gossip blogs have always existed and having different opinions is normal.”

Different opinions are normal. Publishing degrading claims about women, presenting speculation as fact and making extreme allegations about real people are also open to criticism. A person cannot demand freedom to publish their opinion while arguing that nobody may publicly disagree with it.

“Bullying needs to be taken seriously.”

I agree, which is precisely why involving someone’s uninvolved family, tracing their personal accounts and using legal or police language to pressure their mother is not acceptable.

My position is simple: contact me directly, use Tumblr’s reporting process or have a legal representative contact me properly. Do not involve my mum or any other member of my family again.

I’m okay, genuinely. She hasn’t upset me.

What she did do was cross a very obvious boundary. Messaging someone’s real-life family over Tumblr drama is embarrassing behaviour, full stop.

I’m a 35-year-old woman. I don’t need anyone contacting my mum to “tell on me,” intimidate me or try to manage what I post online.

Messaging my real life mum is a wild move. I’m all for different opinions, debate and internet blogs but real life family members? Come off it. Threatening my mum is a bit too far.

Grow up. Get a life and find happiness because whatever is making your soul so sad and hateful for you to behave the way you do, needs to be addressed. Get therapy. Get a dog. I don’t care how you do it but get help.