#sizeism

He said I looked gay at first and I was like I wonder why I am gay then he specified the difference between "queer eye" gay and "discord mod" gay

Also for clarity, I also have what people call a "neck beard" and I do look like the "discord mod" stereotype in basically everyway except I'm not obviously fat (probably look that way cause I wear a whole ton of baggy stuff and am trans {fat distribution and people tend to think bigger clothes equal bigger person})

He even told my sister that she "shouldn't have let me go out like that"

That was one of the most blatantly homophobic (and etc) shit I've heard in this town. My sister even tried to call it homophobic and he doubled down

Bringing my alligator next time (joke cause I'm in Florida and it's a fun stereotype to reclaim in my opinion)

I imagine a hypothetical conversation with a daughter could go like this:

"She looks really thin."

"Yeah, she does. Well, bodies come in all shapes and sizes."

"But she looks like she might be sick. Is she okay?"

"I don't know, she might be. That's her business, though."

Maybe this could lead into a discussion of systemic media sizeism -- bodies come in all shapes and sizes, but almost all the people we see on TV are thin instead of reflecting the vast diversity of the real world.

But, if you are fatphobic, then the sight of a very thin, potentially "unhealthily thin" actress becomes a crisis.

If you constantly frame thinness and weight loss as good, and fatness and weight gain as bad, and you emphasize the importance of "eating right" and "watching your weight," if you equate thinness with "health" and fatness with "illness," and you surround your daughter with good, aspirationally thin role models, then you're good and stumped if your daughter sees a woman who looks (to your judgment) "too thin" or "unhealthily thin."

Because now you have to walk back your messaging and emphasize "You're supposed to be thin, but not THAT thin. She has taken it Too Far. You must not take it Too Far like her." And you have to write dozens of Thinkpieces about the Challenges of Explaining Thin Actresses To Our Daughters, and isn't it really her fault for existing in public while thin and "unhealthy-looking" and complicating my Imparted Lesson that Thin Is Healthy?

Yes, the whole reason people like you being a fetish they have that assumes your personality is unpleasant for many, but when I've been body shamed unprompted by people I showed no romantic interest in, or had people call me an "irl shota" because of my frame and face, or been misgendered and told I can't be a boy because of my height, or been constantly doted on like I'm a child because im short with a round face, or am treated like the end goal of a fetish because i didnt have reliable access to nutrition as a child it kinda sucks??? I feel like short men are just as allowed to have a height preference as tall men or women. Which is of course, you can but don't be a dick about it.

"no guys it's ok to body shame short men!!!"

This is androsizeism.

Height preferences are one thing, but mockery or belittling of someone due to their height is another.

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This is anti-masculinity, androsizeism, and also androableism.