#sizeism

IDK I think if cis men are being told that being fat will lower their testosterone and make them Insufficiently Masculine, and cis women are being told that being fat will raise their testosterone and make them Excessively Masculine, and fat trans people are being denied the right to medically transition if they're fat, and thin trans people are warned against HRT because it will make them fat (and this is said about both testosterone and estrogen HRT), and androgynous-presenting people are told that only thin people count as androgynous...

The guy working the cash register at a dollar tree said that my look (my yellow tennis shoes and purple & black striped socks) was "discord mod" vs queer eye

I don't have a daughter, but I think if you're not fatphobic, the sight of a thin actress isn't particularly difficult or complex to explain to a kid.

I believe in absolute bodily autonomy for anything that doesn’t directly impact the health of others. Not in broad societal “think of the implications!” ways, but LITERALLY make them sicker. This is why I think restrictions on indoor smoking are good and that vaccines should be mandatory for anyone who doesn’t have a real (not imagined) medical risk from getting one. We have very hard evidence for the existence of harm from secondhand smoke, and the need for herd immunity above a certain threshold percentage to stop the spread of infectious diseases. But when it comes to abortion or gender transition, there’s no way you can make an argument that someone else making that decision “harms” you that doesn’t get into “broad societal trends” that a) can be argued for anything, and therefore b) are too ambiguous to be the basis of policy. And I’m sorry to my fellow fat people but fretting about how the availability of GLP-1s “affects the fat acceptance movement” is the same shit. And going “well some people really need it but what about these celebrities who are already skinny” is the same as “well some people need abortions but what about stupid sluts who use it as birth control” or “well if you have a gender dysphoria diagnosis but I think some people are taking hormones because it’s trendy.” Along with that there’s no way to police the people doing things for “bad” reasons that doesn’t limit everybody, those celebrities have bodily autonomy too. If you are bothered by the way the media covers them, critique the media coverage. But ultimately, no one owes you a particular body type.

My friends have always used my right name and pronouns, and have always called me a man. But the second I started gaining weight, growing hair, and being more confident, all my previous behaviors were deemed as ‘aggressive’, and I had multiple friends tell me to ‘tone it down’ when I was mildly upset. I wish I could be myself and be happy as myself, but I feel like my only options are to present feminine or neutral (but have to repress my emotions, or else face good ol’ “Shut Up and Sit Down you’re a ‘Woman’”) or present masculine (but have to repress my emotions, or else face good ol’ Losing All My Friends for Existing and Being Happy)