#singleatchristmas

Being single at Christmas can be hard. It's a time that is filled with songs, films and posters of love and companionship between two people. Because of this it's not hard to see why some people feel as though they're not good enough to experience the media's perception of a 'perfect Christmas' and begin to fall into a spiral of negativity. But if you find yourself falling into that spiral then I implore you to rethink your situation. Just because you don't have one singular person doesn't mean that you don't have people surrounding you who want to be there for you, who will happily go on a date night or have a cosy night in with you. Love doesn't have to be reserved for one person only and if you have multiple people in your life then this just means more people to treat at this time of gift giving and appreciation ❤ being single does not equal being alone. I count myself lucky to have so many beautiful people surrounding me to take on dates, to watch films or play games with, to laugh and cry with. If you focus on accepting and loving yourself, and then appreciating and being there for the people that you love then the pressure of finding 'the one' suddenly becomes less of a big deal. You'll find self confidence, you'll be surrounded by people who are good for you, you'll be more happy. It's okay to want more, but please realise that you are enough just as you are ❤ . #datenight #singleatchristmas #singlepringle #christmasdate #xmas #christmasdinner #ginger #redhead #redhair #gingergirl #gingersofinstagram #brunette #frienddate #friendship #candlelitdinner #cosyclub #love #loveyourself (at The Cosy Club) https://www.instagram.com/p/B6dxqdEFREp/?igshid=1j2rh70etl6dw

#singlelifechronicles #singlelife #singleatChristmas #singletoday https://www.instagram.com/p/CmeHU5VLkC9M7edBJNBdhBispRQjwyhARjLFhQ0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

As I lay in bed tonight, enjoying the finally trimmed tree, and cats snuggle close by, listening to #ChristmasMusic, this poem totally spoke to me. I let myself savor every word of this poem by Ernie Hemingway. This is my 10th Christmas alone, single. Once again, I am without a date, a partner, a boyfriend, a lover. If I am being completely honest, it absolutely suits my INFJ sensibilities perfectly. This isn’t to say that I don’t lament being alone sometimes, and that I don’t seek love, or partnership, or someone to steal the covers from at three am, or to bitch about my day over a shared bottle of wine at the end of a particularly trying day, or to laugh with. I DO want those moments, I crave them, and am at times keenly aware of my singleton status. Instead of cringing, or shirking from my relationship status, or lack of, I relish these words, because I, like Ernest, am making spaces for who is next, whoever he may be. That suits, too. #MerryChristmas #SingleAtChristmas #HappyHolidays #Traditions #ErnestHemingway #poetry #knowthyself #lovethyself #singletonawarenessseason #INFJ #Pisces #Spaces #moments (at Chattanooga, Tennessee) https://www.instagram.com/p/BrjvkngHxUL/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=vutvb06yw2xn