#serialmonogamist

  Not that it is important to know all that much about me, but there are some things that I feel make a difference in how my writings may be perceived, (or received).  Keeping it short, here are some facts:

1. I am a lady born and raised in the northern states now currently living in the southern US. Dating, as I have learned, if very different here. (I will get into this later.)

2. In the past, I have been a serial monogamist. This stopped about 3 years ago. I have dated a few guys since, (met online), and both ended up to be total disasters, (don’t worry, more also about this later).

3. I have finally learned, after a lot of soul searching, that I am worthy of love. Having high standards is okay. Even if I am not the most beautiful, fit, successful woman, I deserve to be loved by someone who is kind, smart, and attractive to me. 

4. I don’t do one night stands. Period. I am by no means a virgin, and I have made my fair share of bad judgment calls. However, in this race-against-time type of dating world that I have thrown myself into, I will not succumb before I FEEL TRUST AND LOVE. 

This is VERY different from how I viewed intimacy before.  In my past few experiences, I had moved WAY TOO FAST for my comfort level- and the results proved my decisions to be disastrous.  Most were fueled by cocktails. Some were pathetic attempts to get them to “want” me.  Which takes us to the fact that...

5. I am insecure and have low self-esteem.  This stems from childhood abuse, (not going to get too deep on this), and things that have happened to me sexually in my past. I know that I am not the only one that is tackling this as an obstacle IN ADDITION to trying to find a decent partner in this crazy life. Anyway, this is important to know, I feel, in order to get the full picture of who I am as a blogger.