Alright I guess I'm putting down some of my trans headcanons for ben so. here ya go 👏
Ben ascended when he was still pretty young, and he died in 2002 so there wasn't a whole lot of community or anything he could look to. Being in an abusive home definitely didn't help either, he didn't quite understand what he was feeling or what to do with it. he just knew that it felt . . . not right whenever teachers or classmates called him a girl.
He told Matt and Rosa first. Rosa took to it much easier than Matt did, but he came around eventually too. He swore them to secrecy, terrified that something somehow would get back to his father. So he didn't tell any other classmates, and only the two of them would refer to him as a boy. But he was okay with that, cuz they were the only two that mattered.
Matt was still hella overprotective of him, but it steered away just a bit from being an overprotective guard dog, to actually showing him how to throw some punches and stand his ground a little bit more. He always felt he should've taught him more, even after his ascension.
Ben's mother, Lisa, was supportive of him, but scared of her husband. He told her one night in tears, and she sat with him and held him for what felt like all night. Lisa was a hairdresser, and eventually he asked her if she could cut his hair. They both talked about it for a long while, trying to think of something that would make him happy without arousing too much suspicion. She cut it into a chin-length, choppy style, and bleached it blond for him.
When he ascended and met BEN, it gave him the option of changing his face and body. Technically, since he wasn't a physical person anymore, he could do whatever he wanted with how he looked. And really, aint that the trans dream of being able to put yourself into a character creation thing? video game style? His face isn't wholly inspired by Link, he's always preferred his mom's blonde hair to him and his father's dark brown hair. He kept his green eyes and faint freckles, but he took her strawberry blond.
(BEN also let him pick its own face, since it didn't really care what it looked like and it thought it would make him happy. hence the Saria to his Link)
Ben actually didn't change his birth name until he ascended. He didn't like his name before (well he didn't hate it, but it didn't feel like him) but he didn't feel safe changing it or had an idea of what to change it to. He shared BEN's name, because it was the first option that felt safe and kind of right.
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