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“MAYBE SOMEDAY BEFORE I’M DEAD”/”IT’S A DATE” BYE I’M GONNA JUMP OFF A GODDAMN BRIDGE I CAN’T HANDLE ANYTHING ABOUT THAT WHOLE THING. ALSO??? THE DANCE??? TO A JAZZY VERSION OF “TIL THERE WAS YOU”???? “YOU’RE STILL STARING”/”SO ARE YOU”????? THE CHARGED LINGERING MOMENT IN THE DOORWAY STARING INTO HIS HOTEL ROOM AT THE BED BEFORE SHE PULLED AWAY??? 

@letmetellyouaboutmyfeels doesn’t even go here but can confirm I was live-texting her while watching this episode losing my ENTIRE mind anyway basically RIP Me, I’m SUPER dead. 

Hoooooooo Lord. Okay. Honestly, I think a lot of it is on Frank at this point. Because Karen is there. She is the one who has consistently been there, who has helped him, who has tried, and she is the one who comes back again and again, which I have a lot of feelings about from a shipper perspective, but realistically that can’t be a solid basis for a good relationship. So, yes. Frank. 

Frank, god bless him, needs to (and I mean this in the most loving way possible) get over himself. He needs help. He has PTSD, he has trauma out the wazoo, he has a shit ton of self-loathing that is at least partly why he pushes Karen away. He needs help. And more, he needs to LET people help him. And I don’t mean in the physical “shoot-em-up” kind of way. In an emotional support kind of way. Because he is so afraid of losing her (or anyone) that he won’t let himself really get close. No matter how much he needs her, as long as he thinks she’s better off/safer without him and that their respective wants/needs are less important than that, they won’t be able to really start. And that is not something he’s going to be able to work through on his own.  

I think they also need to sit down and have a nice long talk about Karen’s past (even the not-so-recent past, looking at you DDS3), because at least some of his reluctance (in addition to being terrified of getting close to someone for them to be taken away from him again) is because I do think he has her on somewhat of a pedestal. He knows she’s not perfect, he knows she has some darkness in her, but it’s clear at least to me that there’s still a part of him that thinks she’s so much better than he is and that she can’t really understand. But…she can. And I think it would be good for both of them to clear the air to the extent that she isn’t perfect and that part of why she and Matt don’t work (since Frank is still apparently on that) is because Matt wants her to be something she isn’t. Let them talk about Fisk! Let them talk about Wesley! Let them talk about her brother, dammit!

Basically, they need to do a lot more SPOKEN communicating (as much as I adore their unspoken soulmate nonsense), and be open and clear about what they actually want from each other, and on Karen’s end I think she needs to not take no for an answer once they do. Within reason. Because I don’t think either of them need to be jumping headfirst into anything and boundaries are important and should be respected, but he needs to stop pushing her away and she needs to stop letting him. And until they establish at least a baseline of that, they won’t be able to start anything that’s really sustainable. 

But also for the love of god let them kiss I’m shallow

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saettres: YO @qqueenofhades IM CONSIDERING THE...

@badasswomengivemelife and that it might mean that there were some variations of reality that are different from what we see at the start of the show - it’s not canon garcy but it is a fun thing to speculate on since Hilary is basically psychic. (This is saettres Btw)