#rufly

i just saw 5.19 and rufus and lily are currently exiled to brooklyn. lily has made no effort at all to try to integrate herself into this “world” (we know it’s because she feels wronged about ivy getting the penthouse as well as cece’s inheritance whereas rufus is a bit more understanding) so i understand where she’s coming from to a certain point. this is where all of their differences start showing up which ultimately leads to their divorce (annulment? i can’t remember) plus william (and soon bart) showing up again absolutely does not help.

while dan and rufus are very similar characters, being father and son, blair and lily are very different. however, i can get how leaving what you’ve known your whole life (the upper east side in this case) can be uncomfortable and unfortunate. idk i know this is just a hypothetical situation but it made me curious as to what would’ve happened if it had been dair who this happened to instead. i hope this was not too long or annoying and you can totally ignore this message if you don’t feel like answering! i hope i wasn’t a bother lol have a great day!

first of all, i always love getting gossip girl questions! never a bother!

personally, i actually think blair and lily are very similar, maybe even more so than dan and rufus! they are both very materialistic, cunning, manipulative, yet using all that as a defense mechanism for a deep vulnerability. they have similar taste in men (bart/chuck vs rufus/dan). they had tough domineering mothers and absent, placating fathers. they are both very concerned with image and what other people think, in a way serena simply isn't.

i don't think from what we see dan and blair's relationship directly parallels rufus and lily's (beyond dan and rufus both making their most famous art about them) - but they are all so similar in personality as well as their dynamics that a lot of dair fans (myself included) can see dan and blair's relationship paralleling rufus and lily's reconnection in a hypothetical future.

but i don't necessarily think dan and blair's hypothetical future reconnection is doomed just like rufus and lily's. i think it will really depend on a lot of different factors. rufus and lily were having problems from the start tbh - alison and bart complications, serena and dan dating and being uncomfortable with their parents dating as well (lily chose bart over rufus the first time because of this), lily giving up their love child without ever informing rufus, rufus' money problems.

i think blair and dan will be in different places in their late 30s than their parents were. dan will have been living a life of luxury as serena's husband. even if blair and chuck have divorced (here's hoping), i don't see blair having multiple husbands after him like lily did. she's living in a different era of womanhood where having a husband wouldn't be as important.