SPOTLIGHT ON: ARSYN SANRIO
1. What caused the break up?
It was honestly a mixture of two things, Gavin was upset about how I decided to leave the family she was in and she wanted space - which I tried to do, but I saw that while she wanted space she was online talking to others which I understood as just ignoring me - but she was probably just trying to keep her mind off how upset she was that I left. So then I proceeded to block her because it was the only way I could stop myself from texting her and she found out and that upsetted her even more because the last time I blocked her we didn’t speak for months and she thought it was that again. So to keep it short, what caused the break up was me leaving her family, not giving her space to process it, and then me blocking her to stop myself from texting her, and then us just not knowing wha was going on since we weren’t speaking.
2. Who broke up with who?
She thought I had broken up with her without saying a word because I blocked her, so once I unblocked her she said “I’m done” and because I didn’t know thats how she saw things until we spoke after, when I saw “I’m done” I thought she was breaking up with me because of the last name situation and because of the not giving her space ordeal, when in reality she thought I had broken up with her first. Confusing? I know. It was all just a miscommunication but at that point both of our actions just triggered us into assuming things because of our past and just because we know each other so well.
3. Who shaded who and if you could go back and change things would you?
One of her siblings shaded me, and thats where things got complicated. Her sibling did clarify after the entire ordeal that she was trying to be there for her sibling, but I was too hot headed to even process it. Once I saw the shade I didn’t even see who was my target at that point, I was just so upset - and just saw red. I was on full defense mode. If I could I would absolutely take it back 100 percent, hurting someone you love isn’t something anyone should do - especially if you love them. Alot of what transpired that night was just my own anger towards the situation, it could of been addressed differently but I honestly just snapped when I saw the shade.
4. Are yall back together? and If so why did yall get back together after the fight?
We’re back together, we’re working on us and just learning how to approach one another with situations. We’re both very hot headed and thats something we’re both working on fixing, we’re also trying to work on our communication with one another.
We got back together I wanna say the night after everything happened, I called her apologizing - crying, and just genuinely admitting and accepting fault and just telling her everything that had transpired that night. I admitted that a lot of it was just my hurt, two wrongs don’t make it right.
5. Are you sorry about anything that was said?
Yeah..I’m sorry about saying I didn’t love her because that was a lie. I’m sorry for saying things like how she didn’t like her family out of anger, or just posting screenshots and participating in what happened that night.
6. Do you think all of the that was needed? The screenshots and shade??
Honestly no, at that point when we had broken up we hadn’t spoken since the break up - I mean we spoke on and off but it was just two people who were hurt talking, so any little thing could of set me off and just seeing her sibling shade me by saying something so minor but at the moment was so hurtful and big for me - I just snapped. None of it was necessary, we could of just hashed it out in private like we did, but things just got ugly and messy.
7. Do you still love each other? Whats next for you guys?
Yes, absolutely. I love her so much, like I literally don’t know what to do with myself without her. She’s my chickpea, and I’m her crackhead. She reminds me every day that she loves me, and just the smallest things make me fall more inlove with her each day. I don’t want to sound cliche but I’ve never been into or been in love with anyone the way I am with her and the way she is with me, I’ve never experienced that.
I honestly can’t tell you whats next for us because we’re taking things one day at a time, but I can tell you that whatever is to come it will never ever get to the point it did the other night. For now we’re just laying low, focusing on us, mending broken wounds and just trying to get back to how we were.
Next is our chatzy wedding, everyone’s invited! Haha.
But next time if we do get into a fight it’ll be more private and just handled between her and I to avoid everything that happened that night.
Both families and friends got involved and while we’re both supportive and grateful our loved ones were there to have our backs, we’re just going to work on keeping it between us.
8. Was Gavin upset or mad you left her family?
Yeah, she was upset that I left her family and more importantly how I just left without telling her anything first. I didn’t think it was such a big deal or that it meant that much to her, but it did and her feelings were hurt for it. I should of considered that, but at the time I didn’t see it as such a big deal but I definitely should of considered her feelings more. After that, we both just said mean things to each other because we were hurt.
9. If you could tell rp one thing what would it be?
That Gavin is an amazing person, and that I made a mistake as well as anyone else but no couple is perfect, and we all react to things differently. If anyone still has bad feelings about that night towards Gavin they can direct them towards me because the majority of it was my fault. She’s honestly the sweetest girl who loves The Office, Big Brother Salads, Chipotle and Vines. And if you’re into those, you should definitely comment her. She’s also super supportive, like even when her and I were fighting she told you Civ not to post about me and I think thats honestly one of the sweetest most protective things she’s done for me.
Theres also no bad blood between the families involved.
