#Relationshipgoals
People say to me all the time they wish their relationship was a lot like me and Coy. I owe the best things about our relationship to feminism. We are constantly unlearning what we’ve been conditioned to be like as a hetero-normative couple. We are both cheering each other on as we confront our vulnerabilities, weaknesses, and strengths. It’s not easy. It’s never easy to be together. For a long time when we started this relationship, people saw how much more masculine I appeared compared to him and that he’s wrong for me because of his ethnicity. Layers upon layers of social conditioning to break us apart. But he accepted me for me and helped me see myself as someone absolutely and unquestionably powerful.Â
There’s so many reasons why I started drawing Bearded Babe. Yeah I love him. Yeah he’s amusing. But deep down, he teaches me every day that love is not something commercial, but moment to moment sincerity exchanged unconditionally. Sometimes that looks like laughter. Sometimes that looks like a fight. Most times it’s the quiet safety knowing merely he exists in this world to reassure me humanity is worth living and striving for.
So when people see and say #relationshipgoals in reference to me and him, I appreciate you see the power of loving someone. But most of all, we’re simply us and even that is too much for anyone to handle.
