#rainbow stuff

Mine was Otis the cow from Back at the Barnyard.

Tsukino Usagi!! Her crush on Haruka and then the whole thing with Seiya. Girl was never heterosexual.

Also, Saotome Ranma, to me, reads as very trans-coded. That 'curse' of turning into a girl was never really a problem for Ranma, she lived it UP as a girl, plus the many cute outfits she bought and clearly enjoyed too.

Aside from them, I am always very... mh, careful. There's a fine line between "headcanon I project onto a character" and "actually embedded into the character queer-coding". You can see that a lot nowadays in fandom where people yell and scream about being queerbaited by canonically heterosexual characters who... do not even have queercoding. You can think of every character as whatever you like, because fiction and fun, but queercoding implies deliberate intention on the part of the creator.

In Usagi's case, I do think the creator might have been intentional there. It is a very queer manga/anime, especially for the time it was created.

TA-DA!

Fresh belongs to @/loverofpiggies

"I'm a part of paradise!"

For context: all my life he's been homophobic, but this past year since I told him I'm on the Ace spectrum, he's gotten so much better about it.

So I was making dinner, went out and he goes "Hey, I found a flag for you in this ad in the paper." I walk over and before he hands me the paper goes "It's not gay, but" and just handed it to me to show a little garden flag with butterflies on it.

I cannot remember the last recent time he brought up something gay to show me, and even this time was "It's not that, but I think you'd like it"

I got three alerts about this comment on a fic of mine - two for edits - but when I wanted to reply, it was already deleted. Don’t know why, maybe the person chickened out of wanting a public answer attached to their name, so I left out the username. But the two edits made me think they did genuinely wonder, so I wanted to answer and hope this post reaches them!

First of all that’s three different questions wrapped in one; them - the characters in this fic specifically - the generalization of “an asexual person” and the personalization of what my thoughts, as the author, are.

1. Could they cuddle naked together. Could they take baths together. Could they sleep nude?

The fic at hand is A Drop of Sunlight, a Shadowhunters fic about canon ace character Raphael Santiago and Jace Herondale. Raphael, as of his canon characterization, has been shown to be sex repulsed. We don’t know the exact extend to his own sex repulsion though.

Personally, I think that he wouldn’t mind bathing together and sleeping in the nude, as long as the boundaries are set clear. An accidental boner can always happen, but what’s important is that his partner doesn’t push.

2. Would an asexual person be okay if he popped a boner and just cuddled.

Now, here’s the thing why I really wanted to answer this comment even though you decided to delete it after all - asexuality is a wide spectrum. Not everyone experiences it the same way. Not everyone is sex-repulsed.

Raphael is a character portrayed as sex-repulsed, which means that he is not interested in engaging in sexual acts at all.

But asexuality itself simply means the lack of sexual attraction.

There are asexuals who don’t mind, or are even very enthusiastic, about engaging in sexual acts for a variety of reason that have nothing to do with being sexually attracted to their partner (-> enjoying that they bring pleasure to their partner, enjoying the orgasm, seeing it as relief/exercise, etc.).

And there is a wide range between that repulsion and that enthusiasm, from not even enjoying kisses and sex, to liking kissing but not sex, to not minding mutual hand-stuff, to flat out sharing sexual activities like any allosexual couple (but that does not make them asexual, because, as mentioned above, asexuality is about the lack of sexual attraction, not the lack of sexual activity).

So, there is no one answer to whether an asexual person would mind if their partner popped a boner while cuddling. A very sex-repulsed person might prefer some physical distance until their partner has calmed down again, while a very sex-enthused person might be down to do the dirty and help out with that, with everything in between being a possibility too.

3. Wondering what your thoughts on this would be?

WELL CONSIDERING I AM CURRENTLY OBSESSING OVER DIMENSION 20 DND CAMPAIGNS AND KINDA GETTING INTO THAT I AM ABSOLUTELY 100% GONNA GET MYSELF THOSE PRIDE FLAG COLOR DYED DND DICE AFTER ALL.